I run a public library, and we briefly had an ESL instructor earlier this year. The teacher was a nightmare; disorganized, chronically late, completely okay giving preferential treatment to some students, oh, and racist against black people. I now wonder which friends and relatives posed as the teacher's references,…

Not necessarily. Women are more likely than men to stay in a relationship with bad sex but everything else good. There's also the fact that women are socialized to not be as assertive about sex, so even if things aren't good, we're less likely to bring it up because that sort of behavior can be stigmatized (it's…

Actually, having seen a fair amount of this stuff (I was in Supernatural fandom for WAAAAAAAY too long), the power dynamics are usually much closer to male-on-female than male-on-male, but also closer to male-on-female creature that only exists in misogynists' fevered imaginings than male-on-female. The "bitch" (i.e.,…

DO YOU NOT WANT ME TO APPROVE OF YOU? DO YOU NOT WANT MY APPROVAL???

A lot of people would have just frozen and done nothing. Acting sensibly after your family has been executed, and you have been shot in the head, is actually quite impressive.

Are you seriously going to blame the murder's ex-wife? So, you must think every victim of DV deserves it since they must be a shitty person to have a relationship with the abuser in the first place. That's because abusers always act like the assholes they are in the beginning so it's really easy to tell who's going…

Seriously...plastic whatever the fuck is driving me nuts

Slightly OT, but can someone here tell me how to report or block comments that are racist on Kinja?

I work with (hopefully soon to be "worked" with, fingers crossed on the new job) with two EMTs that are also Mississippi cops. Both of them hate DV calls, but for different, yet equally despicable, reasons. One of them thinks that if a man has reached the point on hitting a woman she must have done something to…

This domestic abuse scenario happened in our family. We helped a friend escape her abusive husband. She had to transport her children from another state to stay with us. As soon as she got to our home, she let the DA's office know that she was there, and not kidnapping her children.

That's an insult to actual pieces of shit. Shit has a useful purpose to contribute to the world. It collects waste and toxins inside living beings for easy disposal. Shit is valuable and useful. What fucking purpose does this guy serve? How is he valuable? How is he useful? A person who is literally made of shit would…

Yeah, I can still recall all the perverted conversations my straight female and gay male friends would have in high school. I remember girls staring at shirtless pictures of Tom Welling when Smallville was popular and ogling photos of Orlando Bloom when LOTR came out. I am so sick of 'The visual creatures' echo…

Wow. Very well said. I totally agree with all of it. Because men's views are default, women's sexual desires have a hard time being validated. There's a lot of projection going on from the dudes' side. Even if I would rather be gal pals with Emma Stone, I can understand why a man would prefer Olivia Wilde or Kate…

"My shameful celebrity crush is Dwayne (The Rock) Johnson. I... I don't even fucking know. Yes, everyone makes fun of me for it."

"How about you just get free condoms?"

That's EXACTLY how insurance works, dummy. You pay premiums to towards future services but also receive, in some cases, discounted or free services. Birth control is a preventative medication and preventative care is now free.

FactsnotFeelings is very emotional on this issue. You can't reason with him when he gets all worked up like this. Just let him cry it out.

Women owe me sex! But those sluts better not get pregnant! If they do, they cannot have an abortion and I don't want to pay for the baby! And keep paying for my Viagra!

Boy, you sure showed me. Calling me "dummy." And yes, that is how insurance works. Premiums are part of your compensation package. Your employer doesn't pay for them out of the goodness of their heart. I make a certain amount, but I don't see all that money. Because fully 1/3 of my compensation goes to my health…

I had a hard time looking at pictures of these guys before any of this shit. Now it's all I can do to scroll down to the text fast before the image loads. Fuuuuck.

And my theory still stands: Men who exclusively seek teenage or early twenty-something women aren't caving to some bullshit subconscious fertility science…