Oh, of course, I’d never _expect_ it. I just said, _I_’d be pleasantly surprised if someone sent _me_ such an “Hey, I’m still there” e-mail. These things are not universially unwelcome.

That life got in between? I suck at keeping in touch with people, when life takes us in different directions/things get too busy for a while, no matter how much I like them and I’m usually thrilled at any opportunity for reconnection.

I think that’s covered by “conscientiousness”. Of course a good friend will disagree with you in the service of maybe preventing you from causing harm to yourself and/or others. “Agreeableness” here is probably more refering to a certain awareness that sometimes being “right” is less important than being kind.

I’m bringing the oreos and I won’t be the least bit miffed if someone upstages me with a fancy dish, because I will also get to eat the fancy dish! Yay fancy dishes!

Trough interaction with men. You get propositioned (on the street, while shopping, at the bus station, in school, in the library, at the pool, on the beach, etc., etc.), you decline, you get called names. For lots of girls it starts as early as 12, 13. Lots of time for a woman to internalize that lots of guys can’t…

About thinking this little stunt could ever accomplish anything but paving the way for Trump and setting back any cause a leftist may believe in for decades to come.

It’s also a lot easier to gracefully accept a compliment that is about something you do rather than something you are. (“Thanks! I really made an effort; glad it paid off!) “Your eyes are pretty” is kind of a non-sequitur.

Thank you.

I was replying to the wrong person. I am very sorry and appropriately embarrassed.

You haven’t, but the dad has. And you’re defending him, so I find you not entirely convincing.

Just following this conversation, the frustration is mutal. Clearly no one is going to convince you either that “not being cool with rape” is worthless lipservice, as long as it doesn’t include “not definding rape/not defending people who defend rape”. And he is very clearly defending rape here, by denying the…

And you really think the Queen B’s followers couldn’t see through that? I have hung around some Queen B’s in my day, and trust me, John Nash would not have gotten the time of the day from me. Shit’s transparent and pathetic.

More worthless than worthless? Nah. It really doesn’t matter what liberal arts degree you get, your employability will depend on entirely different things. So go get that Gender Studies degree if it’s your passion, it really doesn’t matter in that regard!

Thanks for clearing that up, and sorry for being so touchy about it.

But see, that’s entirely your projection, this idea that all these disqualifiers necessarily come from a sense of superiority. I can add all the disqualifiers I want, regardless of my own awesomeness or lack thereof, because I’m not obliged to enter a relationship, and if that’s the one area of my life I just don’t…

I think quite a few people are just happier alone than in a partnership. This kind of lifestyle just isn’t for everyone and people who realize that should be applauded instead of being accused of “bragging”. The problem with people who don’t is that they usually don’t just make themselves miserable but drag someone…

They’re probably hoping they might at least get laid, even if there’s no longterm potential. It’s in the article, basically - ownership of toothbrush is enough for a casual thing. I don’t think that such a matter of gender, but rather one of longterm versus shortterm outlooks. That those also often seem to correlate…

What’s shitty about having standards? I almost certainly have more deal-breakers than I could afford to in terms of my own sexual market value, but it works for me, because I’m also pretty okay with being single. I’d rather take low odds than some half-hearted compromise. I wouldn’t want to be anyone’s safety choice/…

Yeah, I would never do that. You’re absolutely right, in an ideal world everyone should value their own and everyone else’s time more than that. That said, some men react really badly to outright rejection, so I can kinda see why many women try to avoid that and just hope he’ll lose interest/ focus on someone else…

That’s a problem I’ve encountered as well. Guys seem pleased enough by my questions - I often get the sense they would be happily talking forever until I kill the conversation because they can’t think of anything they might ask me in return.