I *know* that I'm attractive because people tell me I am (as in, people other than my mother), and sometimes when I look in the mirror I like what I see. But that's mostly me liking my outfit or hair or makeup that day. I tend to be very insecure and it makes me genuinely sad sometimes because I convince myself that I…

She sounds like someone who has not seized any agency in her sex life until now. She's spent her sexual life being unsatisfied and not knowing how to advocate for herself. If she's gotta go too far in the other direction, ok. I think it's rather cruel to characterize someone as a mess when we've all had to unlearn…

Even when a woman explicitly states what she needs in order to get off, it flies over your head.

Why do we only hear this "but sex isn't just about orgasm!!!!!" as an excuse for the woman in a het couple not getting off? Nobody tells a guy that it's OK if his partner thinks blowjobs are gross, he should realize that sex is more than just his ejaculation. Nobody says that maybe he's just lying there letting her do…

Written by Tina Fey.

Selflessness isn't treating other people well. It's doing things that don't involve mutuality and can have it's own real problems. And it's not reciprocity—that goes both ways, with the expectation of mutual growth and pleasure—it's about growing together and serving the relationship rather than just the other person.…

oral sex

Damn man. You still mad you paid all that money for the date and didn't get your dick sucked that night? Next time try not to be so boring on the date and MYABE you can get some. Of course, if she wants to give you some.

Eh, as long as everyone is upfront and honest about what they will and won't do and both people enter into the relationship with their eyes open, more power to them. Would it be the right choice for me? No. But this isn't my relationship.

Yeah, but a lot of times guys will say they're into eating pussy, then find reasons not to, or to do it really badly and refuse to take direction, then still expect a cookie for their time. I mean, if a woman blowing a guy started biting at him and refused to stop, you wouldn't hear people telling the guy that he…

If oral sex is the only way she can get off, "demanding" it is not quite the same thing as a guy "demanding" oral sex when he can get off to PIV. He's welcome to consider no oral a dealbreaker, but those two situations are not equivalent.

Ugh, I hate boys like that. Like, do you want me to vomit on your dick? Then stop. Also, I could bite it off so maybe you should let me be in control for a minute.

I'm a person interested in making sure both parties aren't doing acts against their will.

I mean, sure, people have the right to refuse. That wife or girlfriend might not want to continue the relationship but i don't think anyone is obligated to perform a sexual act.

Yeah, I mean, what the fuck is this shit? I feel like I might be disproportionately angry about this, but it's an attitude I've encountered a few too many times. NO ONE is obligated to perform any sex act they don't enjoy, or just don't feel like doing, or what have you. And there are plenty of men who don't give a…

I don't know why anyone would be obligated to do anything in the bedroom. Penises of the world, no one owes you a blow job, no matter how swell you think you are.

Price of admission

when I hear about women who have been with men that won't eat them, it makes me sad. I haven't been woth many men (married at 25), but every dude I've been with has been happy to go down to town. Maybe it's luck, or because I was picky, but I agree we should be as picky as we want.

As long as both parties are cool with it, I see no problem.

Maybe she can't find a submissive little bitch to eat her out?