She really is. I feel like this is her authentic self, rather than the virginal (but also slutty!) Britney knockoff that Disney tried to mold her into being. I would love to party and make out and wear pasties together.

I hope both you and your friend have beautiful healthy babies! I have Poly-cystic ovarian syndrome, so I thought it would be really difficult for me to conceive, low and behold I got pregnant within 2 months, so fertility is a strange thing. The first 12 weeks I was terrified I was going to miscarry though and checked…

My best friend in the world just had her second miscarriage and I feel so horrible and all I want to do is hug her though she’s hundreds of miles away and remind myself how lucky I am by hugging my baby girl. I don’t want to send her this, because I think she’s too raw right now, but I hope she sees it on her own so…

When I lived in Florida I remember reading a story about a woman who visited a Seminole reservation with her kids and then had the gall to complain that the people living there weren’t in traditional costume. She couldn’t believe they weren’t all riding horses and wearing feathers and hunting buffalo, you know, like…

It’s actually pretty good. My local beer and wine shop had a tasting and I picked up a few bottles.

False. Maynard is hilarious and gives the band it’s cynicism, sarcasm, and its heart. I love all the members equally, but Maynard’s persona and vocal styling is an important part of the band. Also, A Perfect Circle had some amazing songs. Puscifer does too.

Yeah...I am disappoint in my googling. I love some new music, but I guess I can’t be bothered to use the magic spirit box to educate myself either ;-)

Or Tori!? I credit the budding feminism of my youth to her and Alanis and Ani, and even Courtney Love.

Yeah you’re right. My sister-in-law is 18 and ever since she became a teenager she has classified any music of movie older than 2 YEARS as “Old.” Alanis must seem like ancient music from a long-dead civilization to her. I swear I tried when she was younger to expose her to other things, but I was in college and she’s…

Um...can your Mom introduce me to those people so they can introduce me to Maynard? I swear I’m not a crazy fan girl or anything, though I do own his wine and all his side projects.

I don’t know man. I was ignorant in my youth about a lot of things, but not about music. IMHO (that’s what the kids say right?), in your teens music is key to being cool. I remember that the coolest kids were always the ones who could talk about current and previous generations of artists. I would hope that these kids…

Yeah, when I was a teenager in the 90’s I knew about the Beatles, The Doors, Blondie, David Bowie, you name it, AND I also knew about what was going on in the current scene. I thought that people who dismissed earlier music as “old” were losers. Know your roots man, know your fucking roots.

You would think instead of tweeting their ignorance they would just, you know, look her up on wikipedia or something...Hey kids: those shiny devices are also computers!

Okay, so I’m very happy for you and that you feel all positive about your vagina, but as a mom who also had natural childbirth (though I didn’t tear nearly as bad as you did), now you’ve got me thinking my vagina is no longer tight enough. There’s no way I can afford $10,000 to get this done, and I’m sure many other…

NPHC fraternities and sororities were created as a response to being denied entrance to white fraternities and sororities. Like black colleges, entertainment channels, and professional organizations, they are a means for a disenfranchised group of people to build their own networks since they are shut out of white…

“attractive people of a certain race wish to hang out with people of similar interests?”

Well I said *if*, and you’re right, we don’t have any way to tell one way or another. As to addressing the lack of diversity, I don’t think it’s that they intentionally excluded women of color, I just don’t think they have anybody to include. IMO that’s the larger issue, not that they didn’t put in a token minority…

On the one hand I hate the entire Greek system and think it needs to be dismantled. On the other, I think the malice directed at these girls is uncalled for. The video is just a bunch of young, beautiful (mostly white) women playing around. It’s not crazy sexual, it looks to me like they’re having a good time…

Trying to have a thoughtful discussion with PearlieMay is a lost cause. She’s not interested in being anything other than dismissive, insulting, and 100% right. I actually brought up this issue to a bunch of queer/poly friends the other night and had a great back and forth about the pros and cons of thinking of poly…

A sampling of some of your comments in response to fellow feminists and allies who want to have a discussion about these issues and are open to changing their perspectives: