As a poly parent who is friends with tons of other poly parents, the children are 100% okay. You are conflating poly/open with cheating, which is entirely different. Poly couples are honest, open, and understand the impact of rotating partners on their children, but also the benefits of having more than 2 attached…

Yes. Because monogamous relationships never break up.

Exactly. Lots of monogamous people acting as if they are a persecuted minority.

You sound exactly like a right-wing republican who thinks being gay is a choice, i.e. an asshole. I don’t necessarily believe that someone is born poly, but if someone believes that they were who am I to tell them they weren’t. At the end of the day, it doesn’t fucking matter if someone chooses to be poly or chooses…

“I find it somewhat disingenuous to claim that it’s not about sex but about loving, supportive, fulfilling relationships” That’s because you’re a judgmental asshole. My poly relationships are very much about love and support. That’s the FUCKING DIFFERENCE between being poly and being open/swinger.

It sucks to be cheated on. But in your case it probably had nothing to do with sex and everything to do with you being a horrible human being.

From your comments on this thread and others, it’s become clear that you’re just a bitter, ornery asshole who has no interest in discussion and only wants to be as insulting and confrontational as possible. So, from the bottom of my poly heart, you can sincerely go fuck yourself. You’re not even a troll, you’re just a…

Yeah I was in a sci-fi/fantasy book club before and was really turned off by the lack of discussion, but so far this one has been great. It was set-up by my boyfriend’s wife’s boyfriend (isn’t poly fun!), and everyone is really awesome and smart (and they all have read the book). We recently read Come as you Are by…

Every time I read something like this I thank god for my husband. We truly have an egalitarian marriage: both of us work, we share all the housework, and are true partners when it comes to raising our child. He gets more upset at the implication that he’s “babysitting” than I do. Of course babies are boring, and also…

I always recommend Ethical Slut and More than Two, and Vice has had a number of articles on poly relationships that I think are pretty good. I’m kicking myself because a friend recently recommended a podcast but I can’t remember the name...I’ll update if I can find it :-) I’m also in a sex nerds book club and we’re…

I like how your mind works, all of your responses and comments on this and other threads have been so thoughtful. I think that what you say is absolutely true, that many couples default to monogamy not because it’s really what they want and what is going to work for them, but rather, they have never known there were…

“Stop justifying selfish assholery and painting it as a fair and justified thing to do.”

This is so beautiful and captures how I feel about masturbation vs. sex as well. It’s SO not the same.

No I fucking don’t. Closeted means: “Being in a state of secrecy or cautious privacy.” Although it is mainly associated with LGBTQ individuals, many people in the kink and poly scenes use it describe how “out” they are to friends, family, and work. There are real social and professional repercussions to being…

Sometimes you’re matched when you get married and that changes as the relationship goes on. Sometimes you don’t have sex until you get married (which I think is crazy), so you have no idea how you match up. Why is sexual fidelity the only metric that people seem to care about when judging the health of a relationship?…

Question: What if a person is “loyal” in all the other ways that count? Meaning they provide emotional support, are a true partner with the finances/housework/childcare etc., stand up for you to family and friends, support your career, and is your number one fan, but once a week they meet with a sex worker. It IS…

Believe me I’m not advocating for cheating, in an ideal world, people with unmatched sex drives would be able to work it out through counseling or opening up, but what about in these scenarios:

Okay I’ll bite. Why?

“WTF did I just read” does not imply you are trying to understand but rather you think my situation is crazy weird. It is a judgement. If you are interested in learning, Google polyamoury, or read the Ethical Slut or More Than Two. Non monogamous relationships are actually much more common than you might think, it’s…

An adult discussion about cheating. Come back when you’re able to contribute something more substantial than a tired meme.