That’s infuriating. I said this elsewhere in the thread, but it’s the Just World Fallacy again and again.

My reaction to the judgment of the mom is summed up by the Just World Fallacy. If I can find a way to blame the mom, then I don’t have to think about the fact that something like this could happen to my child.

Leaving the abuser is the most dangerous time.

Because God knows abusers never, ever escalate after an emotionally traumatic event like the death of a parent.

Very with the times (Costco, so in right now!), durable, and insulated to keep your 5 lb. bag of individually wrapped salmon fillets frozen for a couple hours!

Preach. He owes her his life. He probably would’ve been long dead by now if it weren’t for her.

Yeah. If you’d kept your hot mess of a husband: Alive, employed, managed, fed and clothed and supported and he KEPT stepping out... I can support her and any woman who says, “enough.”

My dad invented pooping in inappropriate places. He’s not even German. My mom invented blaming her hypochondria on Lyme disease. She’s not even rich.

I feel your words like they were my own. Truly, I did not know there were families that didn’t tread on eggshells around their mothers. I feel guilty that I can enjoy my husband’s family for their boundaries they respect and the autonomy they grant their adult children (myself by proxy). My childhood feels like a…

I could have written every single word of this. Reading this makes me feel less alone. I related especially to this:

“The truth is, I really do. I blame her for everything. For holding things I did when I was seven against me 25 years later, and for being skeptical of my successes under the guise of concern. This has propelled me to do better, be better. It’s just not what I deserved.”

I’m getting a bit more of a Brett vibe. But any of the usual suspects will work. Brett, Chad, Chet, Brad. I mean, the list goes on.

Yeah, the whole thing where society tries to make you feel like you don’t have purpose if you’re not a parent (especially for women) is total bullshit. No one should have kids unless they really want them. I was married for almost 10 years before I wanted a kid, and then I had to spend a year talking my husband into…

If he didn’t have a gun, he’d have stabbed her or beat her to death, run her down with a car, etc. I’m the biggest advocate for gun control there is, but this is a domestic violence and control issue, not a gun issue.

Political climbers don’t want to be on reality tv. And socialites in DC don’t want to be on reality tv. This one is doomed.

I keep getting irritated when they say “You can’t just move into Potomac”. Bitch, yes, I can, I could pack my bags right now and find a place in Potomac. It’s not a gated suburb. That being said—I know when I was watching the trailers I was surprised it was all black because I had always thought it was mostly Jewish.…

Easy to believe. I’m just barely walking distance of metro — it’s half a mile or so with a big hill in between— and half a mill would be low for the thousand-square-foot, 70-year-old houses in my ‘hood.

Potomac is only ‘diverse’ within the context of Montgomery County. Also, I’m *shocked* that they didn’t try to assemble a cast of Potomac Persians because frankly that would have been far more entertaining!

They do. Calm down and smoke up. It’s legal in DC :D

I guess it could be a rude assumption? But it’s also a pretty solid one. Whenever I tell people I grew up in the DC area it’s assumed that if not DC proper, then it’s likely PG County, which would be true. Those are largely the racial make ups of this area; white/non black people live mostly in Moco/No. VA, black…