Hmm. Heteronormative. There’s that word again. Seems to me that aside from the baggage of the word ‘normal’ the implication is that conditions that apply to around 90% of people are pretty ‘normative’.
I’m not changing my use of gender pronouns to xer and xis or anything for the .002% of people who are…

We should do away with family names entirely. Each person should choose a new surname at 18. That’s when we can vote and when we’re legally adults. It could be a rite of passage, like wearing long pants used to be.

*plus, I want to see the absurd names a bunch of 18 year olds decide to give themselves.

I know men who have taken their wives names. It’s not disgusting, though anyone who would see it that way certainly is. You need better male acquaintances. What it is is the default case, and any different choice is a marked case and will be commented upon as unusual.
I see a lot of ‘the status quo is sexist’ and…

That’s the way old fashioned way of doing it. Generally favored by people over eighty at this point I think.

My wife kept her name, for her business identity and the hassle of changing it. I accept and support her in this, yet some tiny part of me that I can’t quite squash feels like she hasn’t completely accepted me by not taking my name. I know it’s ridiculous. I could have taken her name, too, and I’ve known men that have…