Ok. I can agree with that. But I would add that possession of vagina should not automatically rule someone out as a friend either.

That's fine. But it's not any easier to form close relationships with men in those circumstances. Saying it's hard to form friends makes sense. Specifically saying women are difficult to make friends with does not make sense to me.

(weirdly, I also find the women that go completely the other direction and are like “I love my girlfriends so much theyre the only things that matter and guys are the worst” to also be equally a red flag for me).

Your smiling Amy Poehler avatar in my notifications is making me so happy in the midst of all the “HOW DARE YOU JUDGE WOMEN WHO SAY THEY DONT LIKE ANY OTHER WOMEN” comments

What? Jezebel misrepresenting a quote in an attempt to make us all rage indignantly? It can’t be! ;)

I agree. And I think because there were multiple things going on in this post I mixed them together and came out with the feeling that she felt women are hard to be friends with but that maybe wasn’t what she was trying to say. But the “all women hate me!” Thing drives me nuts and makes me just start seeing red.

I was saying I didn’t want my comment to sound rude. Not that yours did.

Ok, I am genuinely sorry if you felt I was judging you. I was really trying to clarify in the beginning that I was trying to understand, not judge, but I know that doesn’t always come across on the internet. I was really just trying to understand this viewpoint, and I do feel like your clarifications in the second…

:\ I get along fine with people who don’t tell me they can’t make friends with half the world’s population.

:( that makes me so sad. I had a good friend in high school who dropped me so fast when we went to college and I know having a friend betray you like that hurts worse than a break up most the time. You could be cheating yourself out of some great friendships by lumping all women into the not worth it category though.

My point was that women with negative attitudes towards other women are only hurting everyone. If pointing out negativity is negative then I guess I am hypocritical? I’m not sure what her hiring more women than my office has to do with anything. Especially since your original point was that she can’t make female…

Sure I’ll accept that it’s easier to try out a bunch of guys to date than to find new friends. But I don’t think it’s any harder to form new friendships with women than with men.

Actually I took her comment so badly because I also work in a male dominated industry and I think it's incredibly important for women in our types of industries to be supportive of each other even if we aren't best friends. There are two other women in my office. One is a great coworker, supportive, and will help…

It just makes me sad when women rule out the entire rest of their gender for building these types of relationships. I agree it is hard sometimes though.

I’m trying really hard to say this in a way that doesn’t sound rude. Because I really don’t mean to be rude, but the internet always sounds rude and I honestly don’t understand. You basically just listed a bunch of traits and said because I’m like this I don’t get along with women. But women are just people. And in my…

I’m fine with the idea that making friends is harder as you get older. I am not fine with the idea that making female friends is harder.

Thank you for explaining this more nicely than me.

That’s fair. I probably reacted more strongly to this than I normally would have because it was coming from Mindy and I really feel like she does not look very highly on other women based on other things she has done and said. If this was anyone else who was like “making friends is hard” I’d probably be more…

Sorry but if someone tells me they”just don’t get along with women” that’s a huge red flag to me. Women are not all alike. You can find one to be friends with.

Too introverted to be friends with ANY women? Bullshit