Yes, but it’s not their choice. They can advise with medical expertise but often the decision is a purely personal one and that’s OK too.

Your comment was lovely and I hope Elizabeth reads it. So sorry for your loss as well.

That’s what get me too. All those republicans say they “support” abortions in late pregnancy for the safety of the mother/health of the baby don’t want allow Dr. hern’s type of practice to exist. This woman had to jump through major hoops to get a legal abortion and she was successful because she has a good support…

“I truly would have put myself through anything.”

Oh, you did, Elizabeth. You did. You did everything in your power to give your guy a chance, and when all failed, you did everything in your power—and put yourself through hell—to make his passing as painless as possible. You are strong and incredible. Thank you for…

While what her jackass boss did is not a HIPPA violation, in some states (like mine CA) it is a major legal violation and there are massive reprocussions, up to and including termination. Now I am only familiar with CA law which are some of the strictest in the country, I’m not sure what NY labor laws and privacy laws…

I had a full-term stillbirth and I related to so very much of this. I can’t even fathom being in a position where making a choice and being forced to jump through a million hoops to see that choice through were part of the equation.

Seriously. For AT LEAST a few months. I want her to have her own pool boy who will get her whatthefuckever - a mojito, a nicely grilled steak, a god damn Maine lobster on a bed of truffles, WHATEVER SHE WANTS. And yaaas to canopy bed, 1000 thread count sheets, and pristine white sand beaches.

Right? All I could think after this is “I want to buy this lady a drink and a vacation to somewhere warm with blue,blue water and maybe one of those canopy princess beds and like, a 4-wheeler if she wants. ANYTHING SHE WANTS.”

My mind bends a little bit that women end up deliverng a baby they do not want because it is less logistically and financially fraught than an abortion.

Ok so this made me physically sick. I knew pregnancy could get ugly but I had no idea this ugly. Jesus. I hope she gets counseling and shit ton of support from her loved ones. Also I hope she goes to HR on that boss of hers.

I think you actually just pointed out the flaw in so many people’s thinking when it comes to opposing abortion access for women.

It’s really valuable to hear that an exchange like that actually helped to change your opinion. Sometimes persuasion seems so unlikely that it seems like a better idea to just try and block anti-choicers the best we can, instead of trying to convince them. (I think a lot of people on the left also tend to demonize…

That was so hard to read, and I’m so glad I read it.

Thank you Jia, and thank you, Elizabeth. Telling and publishing these stories is vital to keeping abortion safe and legal. We need more of our stories out there.

I had an abortion at 20 weeks for chromosomal abnormalities. The baby would have lived, but there was no way to tell how much brain or organ function would…

I know it’s so hard and painful to do, but I wish more people would talk about their miscarriages and other fertility issues. I was completely shocked when I realized how common it is, and I think it would help a lot with the feelings of failure that so many women have when they have trouble conceiving or carrying.

I’m ugly-crying at work. I had to close my door. This story is heart-breaking in itself, but the fact that closed-minded mean little people make it so much harder is infuriating.

I just still can’t wrap my head around the fact that this is what it’s like to receive a legal, medically necessary procedure.

is there any way to donate to the clinic that performed it? even if it’s just going to fix the leaky roof, they deserve as much help as they can get for offering their services to women in situations like this.

I’m not a crier. I rarely cry. But I cried now. What a brave woman. What a scary country we live in. I just dearly hope it doesn't get any scarier than it already is for anyone who is not a cishet white man.

My heart broke into one thousand pieces for this woman. my god. MY GOD. I CANNOT.