Here. "There is nothing more painful to me at this stage in my life than to walk down the street and hear footsteps and start thinking about robbery. Then look around and see somebody white and feel relieved.... After all we have been through. Just to think we can't walk down our own streets, how humiliating." —…

To think someone can benefit from white privilege for decades and to be raised the product of an obviously un-equal society and not to let that seep in is kind of ridiculous.

But every single thing you've posted has done nothing except try to make this about you and your contributions to good whiteness. I mean that in the royal sense too. And, yes, I would've said the same things to all of those people, because the death of Matthew Shepard was not about straight people. It's not that hard…

It's not always about you.

"we expect to be patted on the back for treating black people like, well, people."

We're always talking about how men don't get a cookie for treating women like people, it's the same thing with race. This sentence is perfect. Thank you.

I don't think anyone needs to be rewarded for being baseline decent human being. That's its own reward. I also appreciate why this author is annoyed by white people who make a big show out of not being racist just to further their own careers or polish their own self image or worse, to deny that racism is even a…

As a white person, I was wondering why the author didn't answer those questions, but then I realized that it's not their job to tell me how to be a decent human being. After all, it's not "positive behaviors" us good white people want to be congratulated for; we expect to be patted on the back for treating black…

Not talk about it. You can just do the right thing without telling everyone. That's not only for issues of racism, it's also just a general rule. You shouldn't need positive reinforcement for being a decent person. Just be one.

If that's the case, I'd say it's fine to have an old one. I'm not so sympathetic to the "just curious" explanation if the relationship existed prior to the Tinder profile.

Is it cheating? Not necessarily. But is having an active Tinder account while in relationship with someone sketchy as fuck? Yup. Dealbreaker. Shut it down. Lemon out.

No, it's not cheating. But it doesn't have to be cheating to not be acceptable.

Yup. Having an account at Ashley Madison isn't conclusive prove that your partner is cheating either, but it's pretty fucking close.

I would say it makes it a little too easy to make that first move.

Having a Tinder account isn't cheating - it's preparing to cheat.

I do not mind my boyfriend looking, or even sometimes engaging in nice tasteful polite flirting. This happens when you are out in public, engaging with others. But to download an app to your phone built for the specific purpose of looking at others while we are together (like I mean in the same room, spending time…

Yeah preeeetty sure you don't know me, waitress I've never met. That would be like her putting "idiot" on my receipt because I said I might be one on a fb post a couple weeks ago, only worse. Just...hnnnggg, don't.

Thanks Don for writing this article.

You literally suggested that women in the workplace are co-dependent over-sharers who apparently need validation from you. You, apparently, are an enigma among women. Also... secretaries? Really?