The whole conceit of “hey, did you know NBA players like wine?” is mildly problematic. Like you said in this post, they’re simply rich men enjoying something most people enjoy. But the tone of the wine article makes it sound like “hey I didn’t expect them to like wine. Wine is for white people. How cute that LeBron,…

North Korea has pursued a nuclear capability for one reason: regime legitimacy. They want the US and the international community to acknowledge them as a legitimate state. They want a voice in international organisations/agreements and they don’t want to unseat the Kim dynasty. Trump can achieve the temporary…

Neither. I’m a 54 yo woman who’s worked as a Software engineer, an incredibly male dominated field. I remember how bad things were when I started and I still see much room for growth. I have 2 daughters and I have strongly emphasized standing up for themselves in all aspects of life. I hope for better. I want people…

You’re assuming I haven’t had to cope with abuse. That I haven’t had to struggle with power structures that have stood in my way. Maybe I don’t have as much empathy as you do on your high horse. I’ve dealt with MUCH worse than what Megan has described. I have a tremendous amount of guilt not for what I’ve dealt with…

What I’m trying to say, with poor success evidently, is that if you want things to improve, you must act. And it probably won’t be easy. It’s not right, it’s not fair but it’s the truth. We have to stand up for ourselves and not wait for others to fight for us.

Well put. A much more nuanced and deftly worded take than mine.

I’m not sure where this hostility is coming from but your concerns about doxxing, threats, murder proves my point for me. Talk to a black person or a career woman older than 30. Power structures won’t change themselves, it takes people living under it trying to make it better and often taking risks to do so.

Yeah I’m not sure where he falls on the asshole-harasser scale but in a writer’s room, which are typically male dominated, there should have been other people around willing to say, “hey cool it with the verbal abuse, Dan.” But I guess I answered my own question as to why that didn’t happen.

He does what he can get away with. People receive what they tolerate. People in positions of power are surprisingly ignorant on how their actions affect people below them. I’m not making excuses for Dan. I’m not blaming Megan for receiving abuse. I’m saying people should call an asshole an asshole when he/she is an…

How will he know his behavior is abusive if people aren’t calling him out on it?

Agreed. But I stand by my statement that people like Megan need thicker skin. Internalizing abuse is only hurting yourself. Theres a constructive way to call out foul play as it occurs and not doing so only allows assholes to blithely ignore how their behavior may be hurtful. If you believe people like Dan are bad…

These people need to develop some thicker skin. Asshole bosses are the norm, not the outliers. In power dynamics, you receive what you tolerate and if your work life is untenable then you either need to do something about it or learn to cope with it better. If your self esteem is so brittle that you doubt yourself…

The bank examiner should be much higher simply for the exchange with george that goes roughly like this:

This is a very relevant article for me. I’m 25 and don’t have a wife and kids so the assumption is that I will be spending the holidays with my mom. The trouble is that that now includes booking flights, taking more time off work than I’m comfortable with and, generally, not doing what I want to do with my Christmas.…

A tax definitely isn’t the entire solution but it could help. Eliminating subsidies for beef, pork and poultry producers would also help as it would raise the cost of meat closer to what the actual energy input cost is to produce it.

I really don’t understand how a kitchen appliance company can get funding, open a factory, sell their shit in stores without a single person mentioning, “Hey you know what word SMEG is really close to and what that word means? Lets not have that word be associated with kitchens.”

I’m definitely in the “keep it simple” camp of grilled cheese theory. If I want a panini, sure, throw some peppers, pesto, or tomato in there. For me, part of the nostalgic goodness of GC is that it’s cheap and simple on the palette. I rarely eat white bread but white bread, liberally applied butter, and Kraft singles…

As a level 4 vegan, I have much experience with the black bean burgstrocity. I deeply appreciate that restaurants make the effort to accommodate folks who don’t eat meat but I think they go overboard sometimes. An important realization in any vegan/vegetarians life is that well cooked veggies, starches, grains,…

Very informative and useful article I enjoyed reading. Well done!

I find it amazing how so many of these guys play off their harassment like it’s an accident, like they had no idea women could be SO SENSITIVE about seeing their unsolicited dong. I think a huge point that gets lost in this discussion is that it is SO EASY to not sexually harass someone. If you’re not sure something’s…