You’re doing great! I haven’t had a drink in over 15 years, and I still have days where I wrestle with feeling empty, broken and ugly. But the not drinking part really does get easier.

I subscribe to the Miranda Hobbes breakup philosophy: "We didn't work out? You need to not exist anymore."

You mean Donna Xixon?

Thank you. That made my day.

Actually, Tom Banks was introduced to the American public through the timeless cross-dressing sitcom Bosom Buddies (1980-1982), also starring Peter Scolari (as the other Bosom Buddy), a pre-Sarah Paulson Holland Taylor, and the late Wendie Jo Sperber.

Has anyone found video clips? I've looked and came up blank.

Thank you! Deb Butler said in her MSNBC interview this morning that in her job as the NC Democrat whip, she has made people come back early from cancer treatments and surgery and miss family events over the summer to keep enough Democrats in their seats in Raleigh in anticipation of this vote that the Republicans have…

OMG. I lived around the corner on a little side street from Dirty Frank’s, which was mostly super convenient, but which also involved dealing with bar fallout such as you just described. Good times.

Gotcha.

So what is it about drummers? I also dated bass players.

Schadenboner.

Yes. I’m so tired of this baseless assertion that it’s Biden or four more years of Trump. “Electability” is dog whistle for safe, white, male, and it’s a myth propagated by the Democratic Party establishment that benefits from the status quo. 

I’m not doing enough. I told myself it’s because I’m still recovering from being sick this week (my superpower: I can give myself a UTI from just masturbating), but really it’s because I’m mildly depressed and feel like hiding in my house and eating carbs. I was invited to a party that’s going on right now, but I’m…

Injury? Meet insult. 

Because grown men can’t enjoy adult women’s vaginas, and they all actually long to be shagging some tight teen pussy? What a gross fucking thing to say.

Thanks so much for this! 

Thank you. I needed to read this right now. My boyfriend of six years and I recently went on an indefinite hiatus so he can focus on dealing with his bipolar disorder. It’s been heartbreaking because I love him immensely. This was a great reminder that it has nothing to do with me or how we were together. His life is…

In the crock pot: Red beans, andouille sausage, bell peppers, onion, garlic, and plenty of hot sauce. Three more hours to go before I can eat it over rice with some chopped green onions.

No, don’t put this on yourself, and don’t blame yourself for not being a mind-reader. You sound like an incredibly supportive person, and your relationship wouldn’t have lasted so long if there wasn’t a lot of mutual benefit over the years. The fact that her feelings changed doesn’t mean you were doing anything wrong…

Yes, emotional habits are difficult to unlearn, and there’s a big void for both of us right now where our partners used to be. Thanks for the good wishes. Same to you as you walk through these hard times.