I’m sorry to hear you’re in a bad place. You’ve always been one of my favorite commenters, and I’m rooting for you. I don’t have wisdom to impart, but wanted to chime in as someone who’s also done it and is making it. Often by the skin of my teeth, but for 15 years. Take care.

It’s also an excellent novel by Lionel Shriver, which I found even more terrifying than the movie because it plumbed the depths of the Tilda Swinton character’s psychological misery in ways the movie couldn’t.

I would have loved to have had a tummy tuck while they had me open for my abdominal hysterectomy, but that wasn’t in the financial cards. My fibroids were so large they could only take them out that way.

Yes! I had an abdominal hysto 4 months ago today. They were able to leave one ovary, and I did have some hormone fluctuations early on, but now I’m settling into my new normal cycle. It’s weird to get PMS and then not get my period.

Hey! I’m also part of an Essure lawsuit. I’m allergic to the nickel in Essure, so my body had been attacking itself for the seven years before my recent hysterectomy. Best to your sister; I also have ongoing issues. I will never voluntarily have another foreign object implanted.

That was Daniel, the least of the four Baldwin brothers.

Yes! That’s a really good analogy. It’s the thrill of the transgression that gets them off.

If you understand that rape is a power thing, it might help to unpack that a little. People don’t rape because they’re not getting laid (hence the whole ‘rape is a power thing, not a sex thing’ thing). They rape because they have a need to exercise power. Consensual sex doesn’t satisfy that need to exercise power, not…

Thank you for expressing what I’ve always felt about Christmas. I try to pretend it’s not happening until about a week before, but then I celebrate well into January. Shortly after that, college basketball season starts and keeps me from wanting to kill myself until the light comes back.

Good to know. Thanks for the recommendation.

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Fellow three-time Accutane recidivist here! My skin’s produced an abnormally large amount of sebum my whole life. Post-Accutane, I still get breakouts, but not the cystic kind. On the plus side, I have fewer wrinkles than most people my age.

Amen. I’ve been popping my own pimples for 35 years, and it helps to have the practice normalized. Acne is the worst, and if I could afford to have my scars lasered off, I would.

Perky voice and a winning smile. Gets ‘em every time.

Sometimes I say, “I’m part of the childless by choice generation!” in a really perky tone of voice when I’m asked if I have kids. It shuts down that line of questioning quite handily.

Wow, you really do have a talent for sweeping misstatements. Signed, a person who lives in NC within walking distance of a bunch of nationally recognized “good” restaurants.

I was talking about the women in the commercial. Read the the rest of the thread, genius.

Did you read the part where I said they’re culpable? But it’s a different sort of culpability than spending your entire working life spinning shit for the Roy Moores of this world.

The women, although culpable, are ultimately merely puppets from central casting. The soulless PR flacks who write and produce this evil shit should burn first.

Agreed, but there’s an even hotter special place in hell for the men who wrote the cue cards those women were clearly reading.