It's rough to go through security when you have disabilities. If you have any sort of assistive device, you're going to get strip searched, or thoroughly patted down or some other indignity. They almost always ask me to remove something that I can't remove without physical consequences, and it turns into an argument.

I…

And the minute we say 'okay, a government agency has free range to do whatever as long as they potentially are protecting us' is the minute nothing matters anymore because the terrorists have succeeded in making us all paranoid AND getting more of our freedoms taken away. It's a double-edged sword and there's no…

When I was on crutches after surgery, the TSA tried to make me walk without them through a metal detector. I refused, because that's dumb and I would fall down immediately. They treated me as "noncompliant." I went through on my crutches which, duh, made the metal detector go off, and I had to wait 20 min. for a…

Is "priviledged" the new all-purpose insult?

It isn't about seeing black women in a feminist space. It's about ONLY seeing black women's asses in a feminist space.

Because people think choosing their choice is all there is to empowerment.

This. There is a LOT of willful ignorance on this thread to the fact that people who choose not to gift could ALSO be greedy freeloaders. It happens.

It's absolutely nothing to do with strawmen (seriously, try that line on someone who isn't a philosopher), and everything to do with people wanting the maximum benefit (free food! free beer!) without having to participate equally in the exchange (gifts, donations, whatever), and then try to decry tradition and/or…

I agree. If they can afford to travel, they can afford at least a nominal gift. If they are in town, even more so. It's not about "gimmie," it is about etiquette and common courtesy. I am more inclined to agree with you on this than some of the others here, partly because I have some cheap/clueless friends and…

I think it is situational. If the person in question legitimately can't afford anything, even something small or homemade, then of course not bringing a gift is O.K. But they can afford to travel for the wedding? Then yeah, they can probably make room in the budget for a $20 gift. If they are in town and don't have to…

I might be the only one who agrees with you here. You don't attend a wedding, a shower, a birthday or a holiday party without bringing *something*. Whether that something is an envelope full of cash, a toaster, or a mixtape, you don't show up empty-handed. My grandma would haunt me if I showed up to a dinner without a…

I see where you're coming from. I agree with the majority of replies that nobody is "owed" a gift. However, I wouldn't feel right showing up to a wedding without a gift, and I agree with you that an inexpensive, thoughtful present is a great alternative for someone in a tough financial situation. Even something like a…

It's cheap, no special field, no new sticks or balls to buy each year, just a mat. Plus there's no where for top wrestlers to go really, no real pro wrestling division, so you have a lot of high level coaches around.

Wrestling is WAY cheaper than all of those sports.

Cost and facilities. I played hockey growing up (girls and co-ed). It requires a TON of equipment that's very expensive. Skates and sticks alone can be a couple hundred apiece. You also need ice or an appropriate roller hockey floor, boards, nets, pucks etc. That sport is expensive.

Less equipment that has to be purchased by either the school or the students, maybe? Hockey and the like require a fair amount of gear, maybe it's cheaper to have a school sport where the only equipment required is two people's bodies and a mat for them to wrestle on.

Hockey, and LaCrosse are two of the most expensive sports schools can offer.

My husband's holiday is Halloween, mine is Christmas (probably worth noting we're both atheists, lol). I go all out. Decorations inside, decorations outside. Multiple trees. I don't care, it's the best, and I love how happier people seem around the holidays. It's great. We agreed when we got married we'd let each…

Those are the worst! Do something to treat yourself a little and remember there are plenty more fish in the sea!

Sitting here feeling the same way. Sucks majorly.