I am such a big fan of Björk that I didn’t watch this film because I didn’t want to see her get abused and destroyed (I only heard about the film so I may have that wrong) and I heard she didn’t enjoy filming. In fact I don’t know if I have watched an entire film by Von Trier because of what his actresses go…

I know you’re not supposed to judge the artist by his art,

I know you’re not supposed to judge the artist by his art,

If only some cunning sleuth could connect the dots to figure out who the perpetrator was. If only this puzzle didn’t have so many missing pieces...

Also 3 months into dating he told me do his laundry while at his place, i said dude for real?? he told just because i have vagina it doesn’t make a woman. So i said bye to him. MAN ARE IDIODS!!!!

I would love to, but the details would 150% dox me.

Ugh, me too.

Sooooo....you wanna tell us how you did it?!

I have never, ever heard a story where everyone involved acted so appropriately in the face of a boy grabbing a girl. Wow. Good for you and that school!

Yeah, its a hard thing to recommend that people listen to the tape because it took me multiple starts and stops, but it is MUCH more horrifying thatn the transcript. I felt trap and I was sitting in my apartment thousands of miles away from Weinstein. His victims must get flashbacks when they here that voice.

Stassa, this is really awesome. Thank you for writing it.

Try to avoid telling strangers on the Internet what they’re permitted to say. She never said “most men sexually assault women.” Do you have a reason to feel defensive, perchance?

I briefly dated a guy who said shit like this—about being discreet, talking later, not making scenes, how he appreciated my calm and reasonable behavior unlike his scene-making ex, etc., all that shit. When I found out he cheated on me, I showed him what a scene actually was. While emotional, it wasn’t illogical. It…

I was 15 and attending my freshman year homecoming dance at a new high school.
A kid I’d never seen before walked up, started fast dancing with my group of friends and myself (cool) and then casually grabbed my tits with both hands (NOT cool).
I justifiably freaked out, left to the ladies room, was followed by some…

Stassa - this was a brilliant piece. Thank you.

“Calm down” is another phrase men use to tell women that their emotions or countering viewpoints are well actually, wrong. “Calm down” is not a phrase that men regularly say to other men.

I have reason to KNOW that young women are especially susceptible to this. The first time I was groped was when I was barely a teenager. I was out to dinner with my parents, and as we were being seated by the hostess, this OLD guy (older than my father at the time) reached under my dress and grabbed my crotch as we…

Amen.
If you’re a big enough jackass to set the scene, I will sure as hell make one.
Good on Rose (and others) for refusing to fade into the background.

Here’s the deal...

The only times I hear “Don’t make a scene” is from a man to a woman, and from a parent to their child. That speaks volumes.