He's just a guy with a magical iPod.

What did you do? It reeks. It's like a hot foot forest.

Cat People -

The fact that you hate working in sales speaks well for you, IMO. Good luck!

So, the one time I asked for a raise at my job, this is what I did: Emailed my boss something along the lines of, "Hi Brett - I'd like to schedule a meeting with you on Thursday to discuss my performance and the possibility of a raise." So I asked him for a meeting, gave him a head's up on what it was about, and was…

So this is the exact reason why I am so incredibly nice and forgiving to people who work in retail during the holidays. Also, yeah, the holiday rage has already started. Last night my husband and I were at Williams-Sonoma and the register situation was a HOT MESS. Some lady had a huge return that was taking forever,…

Best of both worlds. Yes there is a book called dancing with cats and yes perhaps I do own said book.

My other cat, also orange colored, is named Ginger. So I was going for a classic movie thing with them.

Saw the cutest kitty at a party yesterday! Swore I spent more time playing with the kitty instead of dancing!

As someone who has lost a buttload of weight, I suggest starting with 1 goal every 3 weeks. Like, get 3 servings of vegetables at lunch for this 3 week period. Then change your two snacks for 2 pieces of fruit for the next 3 week period. Then start exercising 3x a week for the next period, and so on.

I swear everyone has to encounter ONE person in their lives that's this person. Mine was my best friend since we were 4 years old. The older we got, the more narcissistic she got.
She ALWAYS wanted me to be there for her whenever she was having issues with her stupid fuck boyfriends and me being the person I am, I was.…

All of the news just makes me want to cry, so I'm sharing a good story from today. This little chickadee who I babysit for sometimes (she's four) and I were out getting hot chocolate today. Chickadee was holding her Elsa doll (of course), and the older lady behind us saw it and asked her if she wanted to grow up to be…

Tonight, I send all the shit that's been going down at my school. It's time that someone says something. I'm nervous and unsure, but it must be done. Too many people are involved at this point, and it is endangering many peoples' well-being. Screenshotting people's Facebooks, and attempting to corner them has gone too…

I second that. Pay for a hotel, go over for a couple of hours at a time, then leave. Having a narcissistic parent is very damaging. It's much worse than "my mom's annoying", so give yourself a break. I used to find it so hard to visit my mother that I would end up injuring myself or getting sick. But I kept…

your mother has a personality disorder

I'm 34, and just this year realized my mom (who passed away when I was 15) was emotionally abusive - my sister verified this without even being prompted, as she's also been in therapy. Go with the diner, or hermit-version of thanksgiving alone, or with friends. Blood relatives are not necessarily your family. *Family*…

Reading through your discussion made me realize that I might need to go to therapy as well for the EXACT reason. If your mother is a crazy asian woman then we might be sisters too, because even the abusive relationship is the same deal(my dad, her first husband). My stepdad however, is an absolutely amazing man and a…

Please, please don't have a "frank discussion" with your mother. I'm sure that poster meant well but no one without a narcissistic parent can imagine the towering, awful rage that bursts out when they feel confronted and any kind of frank discussion will cause a narcissist to blow. NARCISSISTS WILL NOT CHANGE. So…

Oh, no no no, sweetie! That "outsize fear of her critizing" you is NOT your fault. Not at all. It's a normal reaction to being raised by a narcissist so please don't beat yourself up about it. She made you this way. Now it's yours to work on but please don't blame yourself for it!

I generally work under the assumption that if you are asking internet strangers for advice, you already know what the answer is and just need validation and encouragement. I'm sorry your mom can't be her best self for you. Hopefully therapy can get you to a place where you feel comfortable with her. Hugs.