I may pick some of those up! I have to say that the Waterpik is pretty damn awesome now that I know how to use it.

I agree 100% with all of what you said and I'm so sad there are so many of us sisters in this thread. Re: abuse/not abuse....I just have a hard time characterizing my mom's behavior that way just because two dear friends have mothers who are so much worse. I know bad behaviour doesn't need to meet an objective…

Have you read any blogs written by sex workers, for sex workers ? One that comes to mind is Tits and Sass. They have guest writers and some good links. It's not all "rah-rah sex work is so great !" - posts cover a range of experiences and perspectives. Read the comments, too. In the last couple of months there was a…

*hugs* abusive parents are the worst. Especially as even when you're adult they still make you feel like a kid they have power over :(

If vibration makes you happy, try a "pocket rocket" which will be a lot less intense than the wand type.

I have an etiquette question. I am in therapy since July, getting help coping with my husband's sudden onset of an extremely painful, completely disabling illness. My therapist is wonderful, and has been so beneficial. We still are working through husband 's illnes, so i'll be continuing with therapy for at least…

You're right. It's just that any sign of anger from my mom immediately puts me in this OH GOD WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN TO ME NOW panic mode- as a kid she would drag me around by my hair or break my favorite things or deliberately put shampoo in my hair and refuse to help me wash it so it would get in my eyes (inventive,…

I need vibrator advice. I bought a magic wand, but it's too strong, even on low. I do like it on my neck, though. :) Can someone recommend something more gentle? Maybe something less vibrate-y and more vulva/clitoris massage-y? I'm a sex toy novice, so please don't recommend anything too "advanced."

Thanks so much. That looks really helpful. I always assumed our relationship was basically okay with a few problems but recently I've been realizing that the problems are EVERYWHERE. I'm amazed at how much I went along with her expectation that me constantly walking on eggshells to avoid upsetting her was a reasonable…

I used to keep open bowls of vinegar and change it every morning. Within a week all the little buggers had drowned.

If it terrifies you, I say don't do it, especially if the boss seems sketchy. Do you have any friends working as escorts who could give you some advice, or have any knowledge of this guy? If you need a name, it's your childhood pet, with the street you grew up on. In TO there's this non-profit run by sex workers with…

So many new beginnings. So exciting! Hope everything falls into place nicely.

ugh. for the past week I've been waging a war against the fruit flies in my kitchen (and...everywhere, really. it's a studio apartment). I've set beer and vinegar traps and bought some disgusting sticky fly paper, but nothing's working especially well. Anyone have tips on how to deter the little winged bastards? My…

I've been ghosted on and others have ghosted on me. When I've ghosted it's because I just lost interest and didn't feel like having the whole 'break up' talk. But I've only ghosted on people who I saw less than three times. Six months would definitely warrant a talk.

My divorce is almost final and I gave notice at my job this week so I can move back home to Philly. I am terrified about moving without a job, but it will be so much easier to find a job once I'm there. My friend is buying a house and invited me to live with her but her closing keeps getting delayed. I need the…

Yep. And as founders you can do that, most of the other women know well that they would be putting their jobs at risk to not dress in an accepted manner.

My business partner and I are in the tech industry (we're both founders and are women). We'll go to the huge conferences and all the other women (maybe 10% of the attendees) will be wearing super nice dresses and shoes. We don't own clothes like that, so we'll show up in collared shirts, black jeans, leather jackets,…

Not to mention physical necessities of being a cis woman. Why are pads and tampons so goddamn expensive??? Why aren't they effing subsidized if 50% of the U.S. needs it??

I love you for pointing this out.

...he simply proved something we all already know, the double standard women deal with on a day-to-day basis.