I think we all understand we’ve reached a point where certain things cannot be discussed with any measure of dispassionate remove, because passion is the highest regard and concern. Of course that makes sense, because only the best things, particularly as they pertain to intellectual pursuit and understanding, comes…

“You actually have no idea of Black women have died in the war against Black hair.”

“you’re so sure Lupita is wrong in her assessment” - you

Unfortunately, until he actually starts having sex with teenage girls, I think he’s safe. As long as it’s just his vile opinions fueling it, I don’t think it can gain enough traction to bring him down, because when has it ever where these dudes are concerned? I’m resigned to his continuing existence as a festering…

Yes, hopefully one day all men will disappear.

In the first place, it’s a joke designed to shame him as the hack he is, so calm down.

It’s deeply disappointing to me that it looks like Brett Ratner is going to get run out of the business because of sexual harassment, when he should have been run out of the business for having no discernible talent.

“He “outed” me with no regard for my well-being...”

It’s funny to me how I can be the know-it-all when I’m the one repeatedly saying I don’t know. And neither does Lupita, because she’s not a mind reader, so she has no grounds to project a motivation to their actions.

Die Hard is unquestionably the best Die Hard movie, but Die Hard with a Vengeance’s elevator shootout might be the most awesome scene in a Die Hard film (okay, the payoff lasts about 3 seconds, but it’s such a killer 3 seconds).

And once again somebody mistakes being critical of the language and tone used in addressing an issue with denying its validity. If only I had said “she has every right to her disappointment and call them out for what they’ve done” like a half dozen times during this discussion. Oh well.

Yes, one day I’m sure I will be standing in silent reflection of all the lives lost at the great Black Female Hair Memorial on the National Mall.

“I am disappointed that @graziauk invited me to be on their cover and then edited out and smoothed my hair *to fit their notion of what beautiful hair looks like.*”

You mean you don’t remember The French Lieutenant’s Facepuncher or Dead Man Punching?

What’s up with the quotes around “authentic”? Did I say authentic? If somebody else did, I can’t tell, because Kinja is such a jumbled clusterfuck, it’s impossible to follow a conversation.

No thanks. You don’t need my involvement to make up your own distorted version of what you think it is I “really mean” that makes me the homophobic pedophile you absolutely know down deep that I am.

You’d have to ask the person who did it, or people who do that sort of thing for a living. My contention was never about that it did happen for one reason or another. I have my belief of why it happened, and Lupita (and many others here) have theirs, and that’s fine. But I think a line is crossed when, if calling…

“we’ve been socialized with racist standards of beauty”

That’s a reason to suspect it; it’s not a reason to assume it and then assign it to others. But based on our own history, I understand this tactic is SOP for you and your ilk. You live in a world of smokescreens and dog whistles.

When are you going to stop mistaking defense of behavior (which is not what’s going on here, no matter how many times you insist it is) with criticism of tone? I haven’t defended anyone’s behavior, I merely offered a different context for why it happened. She still doesn’t like it, and it’s still not a good look for…