Yeah, like maybe, what he said when she ignored him was, “Excuse me ma’am, but your shirt seems to be on fire,” and then, he spit on her to put out the fire, and when that didn’t work, he thought maybe blood would help. I’m sure it was all totally rational.

Did you click through to the Gothamist article? The comment section is filled with some dude who is just sure that the asshole must have approached the woman politely and appropriately, and is very unhappy that everyone is slandering the fine, upstanding gentlemen by assuming he could have said or done anything…

That’s a very comforting thought for when I have my next flashbacks about the 10+ men who have chosen to stalk me, grab, grope and spank me, restrain me, pull away my clothes. And then there were the catcallers as well.All were utter strangers to me. Good to know I’m more likely to be attacked by a person I know!

I’m sure there’s more to this story. He probably held a door open for a woman earlier in the day and was under serious emotional distress because he didn’t receive an enthusiastic blowjob in payment.

comes to the comment section of a story about a woman being attacked by a stranger to say fear of being attacked by a stranger is irrational

Obviously we know that we have a better chance of being attacked by someone known to us. But that doesn’t mean, as evidenced by this example, that it never happens. We get attacked by strangers and by people who are known to us. What do you think the solution to that is? You bring up this idea to derail the current…

That’s exactly the attitude that many men have that is scary and problematic as hell. As a dude, I’ve done my best when other men exhibit that attitude to shut that shit down, but a lot of dudes still think they’re entitled to any woman’s attention they desire.

I had two men come at me like they were going to hit me in broad daylight on 14th Street once because I expressed something other than appreciation for their disgusting attempts at ‘catcalling.’ One dude actually wound up like he was going to backhand me. This happened a couple years ago and I’m still baffled by it.

“You OWE me your attention for as long as I want it.”

Ugh, why don’t we just give nice guys a chance? This wouldn’t happen if we weren’t such frigid bitches.

Next time a man rolls his eyes at me about feeling threatened, I’m going to send them this link. Dear men: don’t blame women for being leery of speaking to you in public; blame the assholes who taught them that was necessary.

Men don’t get this; it’s about trying to guess which ones won’t take “no” for an answer. Doing that math can range from annoying to terrifying.

What about all the men who don’t stab women? Why don’t we ever hear about that?

True story: I ignored the cat call of a man of a sunny Washington DC Sunday afternoon, he proceeded to follow me for 2 blocks then shoved his finger in my ass crack. Its not just about the cat call, its about the fact that men feel they have ownership over our bodies.

Every time I hear someone say that women should just accept catcalls as compliments or that they’re harmless, I start getting angry.

This really brings the quote “men are afraid women will laugh at them, women are afraid men will kill them” to life. Jesus.

But what about his feeeeeeelings????