I agree... and yet... still feel better when my dude is home. But then on the other hand, when he's not here it's just me and my baby, and I am absolutely *hyper* alert all night! aware as fuck that if someone broke in it's just ME protecting my child. Having someone else there totally releases me from that fear. I…

A time-honored trope dating back to the Caveman Era, the idea of men as protectors and women as protectees is arguably the least feminist idea of all time.

I have had issues with sleep and safety since my college boyfriend broke into my apartment one night via my bedroom window. I sleep better when my husband is around, just because he is another large person to keep our house safe. When he's away and my mom comes in to help with childcare logistics, I sleep like a baby…

To me, it's more like having a second adult person around makes me feel safer than being solo. Right now it's my male partner, before that it was my female roommate, before that it was my parents.

I'm completely with you here. Those things made me deeply uncomfortable, while making me feel sort of guilty for feeling so uncomfortable when essentially someone is just trying to describe the horrifying thing that happened to them.