Especially if it’s true.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

Absolutely! My roommate is very needy, never leaves the house without me, steals food from the counter and jumps into my bed almost every night without even asking first. She also never puts away her dishes and leaves her things everywhere, and even really stinks sometimes, but I would never ask her to leave...

Yeah, kids are going to get exposed to so many negative messages as it is. They don’t need to hear it at home. I still remember being all of 5 and seeing an ad in a magazine for some diet pill or something and there was a picture of a woman pinching her small stomach roll. I looked down at my own perfectly normal…

When I was very sick (116 pounds at 5'9) people used to tell me I looked like a super model. It was really hard hearing how great I looked when I was barely eating. I make it a point to NEVER compliment someone on their weight loss unless THEY bring it up saying something like “Hey, I’ve been working really hard at…

It hasn’t been foolproof because it’s really hard and he still doesn’t fully acknowledge the extent of his emotional abuse and neglect (because we had money and money = security and happiness).  He and my mom still think they were parents of the year and remember it all differently but their couples therapist called…

I have a mental illness. I was “the crazy one” and since therapy was a bad word in my house growing up, I was constantly shamed for it. I finally got help for it in college (which is also when I realized my problems with food were actually really serious and could have killed me). My sister, meanwhile, hasn’t been…

My parents are better grandparents than parents (and they weren’t very parent-y parents, there was neglect, etc.).  My dad finally got in therapy for his OCD and alcohol use.  That was after I didn’t let them see my child for 6 mo because of bad behavior.  Therapy works.  It makes me sad because it shows me they were…

Drop whatever that is you’re fiddling with and write a novel IMMEDIATELY.

I feel like claiming a friendship with Meatloaf speaks of a certain level of self-loathing. 

Soooo...she keeps reiterating that she’s NOT a feminist, but is getting all pressed about being excluded from the club? Wow, you’d almost think she was somewhat oblivious to her own entitlement to having her cake, eating it, and oh-so-glamorously excreting it...

Am I wrong in suspecting Miss Lana is maybe a wee salty…

I mean I don’t know her that well at all, but this is such a CLASSIC covert narc move that there’s virtually no chance, imo, that she’s not one. The martyrdom in that message is stunning. The implication that she is somehow made purer and holier for choosing abuse, but should somehow be exempt from having any sense of…

I’m just not sure she understands what feminism is about. She thinks it’s about behaving a certain way, never needing men, being vocally independent and being judgemental of other women who deify their men like she does in her songs. She feels resentful that other performers are being praised for appearing “strong”.

“The kind of women who says no but men hear yes, the kind of women who are slated mercilessly for being their authentic, delicate selves...”

I know this isn’t the point here, but imagine referring to yourself as “a glamorous person.”

Yeah, she could have just said something generic like other top female artists do the same shit and I’m singled out and left it at that instead of naming names.

It could be that. But if her main argument is that she’s being unfairly criticized for her lyrics and subject matter wouldn’t it be more relevant to cite artists who have similar paths and messages?

Lana is introspective and downtempo and not pop per se, so she is not necessarily ever going to have those #1 hits

Ok, let’s say it’s bc of the where they are on the charts - then she looks worse bc they certainly have been through what she’s going through and much more in an industry that fetishizes black women. 

I don’t know why she insists on bringing up “authenticity” in every one of her rants. Like, sure, you could be your “authentic self”, but you clearly never have been. (Which is fine! Artists can have a persona! Just don’t try to claim that your obvious persona is actually your “authentic self”.)