Is anybody else confused that cops got suspended over this, but don't get suspended over things like rape or murder? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Yes, I think everything you say makes sense. It's not at all hard to understand your perspective. The caretaker role sucks giant boulders on so many levels. I am unbelievably lucky to have such a wonderful, giving partner. May I never, ever take him for granted!

That is really cool. I did keep the love letters and postcards my husband sent me. I keep them in a little vintage train case. I thought I knew exactly where they were and am now resisting the urge to tear the entire house apart in search of them.

Please accept an Internet hug from someone who started sobbing at the Apple Store because she thought her dad's voicemails were lost forever. :(

The death of a person in your life has a weird way of making everything they used or touched or (especially) gave to you special. And you're left sitting there, with a dumb saved email or (in my case) a very emotional expired can of soup, trying to walk the line between insanely sentimental and appropriately…

The Marie Claire article kind of sounds like my dream closet tbh but it also sounds like it only works for a giant walk in closet. It was not written for people who live in 500 square foot apartments.

The thing about open relationships is, if it's known and agreed upon then it's *not cheating*. Yes, she cheated first. Then he found out, and they decided on ground rules that worked for them. It's a great big leap to suggest that he's being oppressed by this arrangement. You might well disagree, but I've both lived…

I must respectfully disagree. I don't think their situation is worse in the slightest. Yes, she did a crap thing by cheating first, but then they worked things out. They love each other, they're together, she's getting her needs met on a casual basis that's respectful of his ground rules. He's got his wife and…

But so the inverse of this is that "Amy" has no choice but to stay in this relationship and meet his needs while not having her own needs met. Following your perspective, she's there keeping his life from falling apart. If she can do that and find some way of dealing with her sexual needs that doesn't involve having…

She said at some point that her husband stopped wanting to have sex with her. It's not celar from the interview whether her husband cannot or does not want to have sex with her. Speaking from experience having a partner constantly sexually rejecting you, for years on, whatever the reason, is quite devastating. I…

I'm sure this means next to nothing coming from a stranger in the grays, but as someone living with chronic illness I just wanted to say that you're in my thoughts and I wish you well in dealing with your health issues. Also, thank you for not judging the choices this couple has made.

Does a spouse's severe illness/disability mean you have to sign on to 5, 10, 20, 30 years without sex? Especially when that wasn't the case prior to marriage?

I can absolutely see your point of view. I just feel that life is not as black and white as we would like it to be- sure would make things easier if it was. And, nobody really knows what goes on in a relationship except the people actually in it (and then, sometimes not so much). It's my opinion that this woman was…

The key difference is that you would not be cool with it. That doesn't mean that he's not. What works for them clearly does not work for you, and that's okay. What's not okay is to judge people for making other choices than you would in the same position. And I say that as a critically ill person who was left by a…

I disagree. If I were unable for whatever reason to have sex with my girlfriend, I would encourage her to seek sex (discreetly) outside of our relationship and I would expect her to do the same for me. Sex is an integral part of a relationship and it's unfair to expect your partner to support you while sick and give…

From the interview: "What's been so nice about seeing other married people is that you realize you're not the only person in this situation. The guys I see have spouses with depression or health issues similar to my husband's. This is a topic you just don't talk about with other people, so having a relative stranger…

Thank you for sharing, Amy. I'm also befuddled by the overwhelming negative comments about Ashley Madison and cheating in general on Jez. THAT is the one topic guaranteed to get tongues clucked and pearls clutched, like no other.