So basically what black women have been writing about since forever. ok cool.

I get the criticism of Strong Female Characters. I do. The ideal female character would be strong in some way (physically, mentally, emotionally) but would not be constantly Othered in the process.

What's wrong with bar tending at one place for 15 years? Professional bartenders can make a decent living. Or are you and your friends only supposed to be attracted to men with powerful job titles?

If it helps, I think you made the right call. Long-distance flirtation guys do not want a commitment, or even a monogamous involvement. Soothing sounds and so on.

Cops are suspicious by nature. They're always looking for bad guys, so the fact that they have come out unequivocally to exonerate her tells me all I need to know. They have access to all the information and most importantly, they were there when she was rescued and witnessed her response. If there was any evidence…

I gotta gripe about this: in no circumstances EVER can a child have an "affair" with an adult. That is statutory rape. Rape by any other name is still rape.

So even if she did have an affair with him, how does that not make her a victim? He was a close friend of her parents, that makes him a predator who took advantage of a young girl's infatuation. She may very well have had a crush on him but I have a really hard time believing she'd be a willing participant in the…

Honestly, most people don't read, and some people have no capacity to understand subtext. The fact that the book is written from Humbert's POV destroys most people's ability to comprehend that the point of the book is that Humbert is someone we cannot and should not identify with. The scene where he finally…

I am so sick of that term. "Lolita" was about a young girl who was stalked, coerced, and sexually abused by an adult man who was willing to trick her mother into a loveless marriage to get closer to his prey. He creates a "relationship" with her that leads her to another sexual abuser and into a child pornography…

Same here. Had to move back into a dysfunctional, abusive "home." At one point, I was frightened for my life because of the double restraining orders on the other "roommates/family members'"significant others. But - it was take a room there or be homeless. In a way, I was lucky to have them. I hated it, but I saved…

I have a strict rule against dating dudes who don't do period sex. It goes hand in hand with my rule against dating guys who won't kiss post-blow job.

Even in coach they are nickel & diming for the "good" seats- as someone with claustrophobia and PTSD, I can't sit between two people, or one person and a wall. I have to sit in the aisle seat so that I always have the illusion of control of at least one side of my body. The last time I flew, I paid an extra $90 each…

I did that. On top of her being physically/emotionally/verbally abusive and manipulative, my mom would take the vast majority of my paychecks so she could pay her bills. She's living in a home she can't afford, but she would rather take her kids' money to pay her bills because she doesn't want her friends to know her…

I did *choose* to be an adult, though - I realize how it could sound offensive to you, but my parents weren't going to let me be an actual adult if I lived in their home. I'm sure there are plenty of people who live with their parents and are able to retain their autonomy etc. ... I'm just not one of them, because of…

Seriously. I did whatever I could to avoid moving back in with my parents because their abusive, authoritarian household was not something I was willing or able to get back into. They are the reason I left. (And no, I don't mean that they expected me to do chores and keep a curfew; they wouldn't let me buy my own car…

I moved out when I wasn't financially ready at all because of an abusive home situation. I've been barely scraping by. At one point I couldn't afford bills and was even evicted and had to move into a derelict shit hole in a very shady neighbourhood. At that point I was very close to moving back home... but I'd rather…

These articles baffle me. The majority of the people I know, most of whom are living comfortably but firmly around the poverty line, live independently. Moving back in with the parents isn't an option. They're either too poor, too abusive, too indifferent, too far away or any combination of those. Everyone left as…

Just wanted to bum this up. You're not the only one out there dealing with this. I don't know why it's assumed that the people who move back home with their parents are 'living it up'. I was forced to move back home because the job that would have given me enough money to live by myself fell through and there was…

I always feel like these trend pieces completely ignore issues of privilege. This whole issue assumes that the parents:

It's so interesting how good home lives are assumed in these kind of articles. I recently moved back home since I still haven't landed a job post-grad-degree. I moved back to an abusive situation, one that makes me depressed and suicidal at times. It was not an easy decision, but with my debt and my employment…