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I think maybe she and Bieber are both trying to get clean. Weeknd is an admitted drug user but seems to be able to keep it together. The other two are basketcases.

Drugs? I think Selena has hidden it fairly well, but I think she had a bad drug habit. The Weeknd makes no bones about his use.

I don’t know for what. It’s just looks like random scrabble tiles. I do agree with you about “The Weeknd” though. It’s always made me kind of roll my eyes. And that kid’s got talent, so I suppose if he’d just stuck with his real name it wouldn’t look odd and we’d all be used to it.

The testimony about Nicki Minaj’s brother is brutal. That poor child. No one should ever have to live through that, and no one should be forced to testify in court. I hope he’s locked up and they throw away the key.

That name looks like an anagram for something else. No wonder he changed it.

He’s totally spending all his free time in New Jersey now anyway!*

“Justin is aware Selena’s family is not thrilled they are hanging out. They think he caused Selena a lot of grief,” says a Bieber pal. “Justin hopes he can prove to them that he has changed.”

Fake news! The only good apology is the one you never give. If someone is offended, just insult them again for being poorer or browner or femaler or weaker than you and saying the following to yourself over and over:

But what you’re saying here is them being upset is not valid to you in this situation, because you stand by whatever thing you did. You can be sad that someone you care about is upset, but that’s not the same as feeling remorse.I think a lot of times people use apologizing as a tool to get someone to stop being upset…

You also can’t give explanations with your apology. It deflects the blame and centers the story around your thoughts and feelings. The point of an apology, if you genuinely mean it, is to express remorse to a person you’ve wronged. Not to make them see your side of it, and not for you to be absolved or forgiven.

Actually, there’s some good evidence that sincere apologies reduce the amount of litigation. It’s the bullshit non-apologies that often spur people to sue. Many hospitals have started taking a pro-active stance requiring their staff to apologize when there have been clear errors, and it has apparently made a…

Then don’t apologize.

Then you’re not apologizing, you’re just expressing your displeasure with their reaction to something you feel was justified. That’s not the same thing as apologizing.

If you’re worried about incriminating yourself, then you have the right to remain silent. But if choose to give a half-hearted “I’m sorry if...” apology instead, don’t expect people to actually forgive you.

Yep. Basically, if the apology includes “if” or “but” or “anyone”, then it’s not an apology.

My pet peeve is “I’m sorry if I offended you...”. It’s not actually apologizing, and it’s basically victim blaming that the “offended” can’t handle whatever happened.

I would add: Do NOT make any effort to excuse or explain your actions. Do not say, “I was drunk” or “It was the 60s” or “It was a joke”. Any attempt at explanation minimizes the apology.

I know this is not sexual harassment/assault related but I can’t help but share a recent faux apology from my MIL who called child and family services on us 4 years ago when our child was going though a rough and rebellious teen years because she didn’t agree with our parenting.  

Thank you for this post. Some of us were victimized on a closer level. My father, aka, the monster, tried to place the blame on me. As an adult, he actually told me that he would never harm my daughter. That I was “special.” Needless to say, I didn’t let him anywhere near her. It took a lot of time and therapy, but I…