Not to mention, it’s a goddamn personal space issue.

Like would they allow me to touch their hair? With my hands that I haven’t washed after eating God knows what?

“Man, I’d LOVE it if I were catcalled!”

That’s it too. I have heard it being asked of one of my friends, who has beautiful curls halfway down her back. “Is that your real hair?” Bitch, worry about your own rat’s nest, with your pasty scalp peeking through in 5 different spots.

I don’t get it either. I’ve never understood that mindset. I don’t even like getting into packed elevators because I hate crowding people’s personal space, so for someone to feel that comfortable touching a complete stranger in a familiar manner is just bananas.

I only check the greys when I need a good laugh. I’ve met my laugh quota for the day.

when those “bad things” are compulsive sexual predation and compulsive lying about that sexual predation, then i’m going to say no. i can’t love a sexual predator. i don’t think there’s anything wrong with me for feeling that way.

Nothing. Nothing separates them. A Venn diagram of the two groups would be a circle.

Hmmm, my answer to that OP is you pet dogs and cats, not people. Keep your bloody hands to yourself. It’s not a compliment that you have the audacity to want to put your hands on me like that.

I’m already sick of the apologists claiming “It was a JOKE! He was on SNL!” like that makes it ok.

The audacity to even touch someone like that! Hair touching is (to me, anyway) a very intimate and familiar gesture. I personally reserve that only for whoever I’m dating. And yes, it’s crazy how white people haven’t realized there are many different textures and density and volume to hair. That doesn’t mean they can…

It’s totally a white person thing. Combination of exoticization of African-Americans (“oh, your hair is so _different_!”) and assertion that their curiosity trumps your bodily autonomy. It’s fucked up and creepy and nobody should do it ever.

Could you imagine if black men and women just started touching white women’s hair without asking?

And chicken thighs? They may not be red meat, but they’re definitely not white meat.

“The same sluts that rejected us, the same sluts that chose the god damn cool kids over us.”

I know that’s right.

Cue in the butt-hurt black folk, who thought it was inappropriate to dance at the wedding to soca/Afro-beat/dancehall/reggae music because wypipo were there*

Those kinds of Pollyanna questions are never asked in good faith. 

Also! Don’t live in a perpetual state of not-having-sex-with-me. Don’t sit there and wonder how you can appropriately work your way into having sex with me without it appearing to be harassment. Live your damn life and stop treating women as people you are or aren’t having sex with. Don’t treat me like a potential…

With these issues, it’s really not hard to not be a trash person.