Everyone keeps mentioning that he was jamming his fingers down her throat and then elsewhere, then the throat, then elsewhere... etc etc.

She just happened to reach out at the right time when he was willing to listen, and respond, and get help. These situations don’t always end that way. Sometimes the abusers take the compassion very badly.

I also hate how this situation is being exploited by many online commenters to selectively go after/ revoke the feminist cards of the spoiled pretty little rich girls they wanted taken down a peg. Especially when you know it’s unlikely that some of these people don’t always hold themselves, their friends, family, etc.…

I honestly don’t see the value in tearing people down for working with Allen pre-2014 if they go on to see the error of their ways. His abuse of Dylan Farrow may have been a part of the public record if you had gone to look for it, but a lot of people had either forgotten about it or were too young (or not from the…

Who are you even talking about? I only see one male commenter at the top of the comments section AND he’s great.

Who’s got that ‘Sure, Jan’ gif?

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Some people also just write “etc.”

I often make a similar argument about not trashing groups of people by race and gender because it hurts everyone, including the oppressed. But it’s also important not to be too defensive. There’s a lot of history behind the irritated responses. It is disappointing, and stark, that not one male winner mentioned the…

It’s why I’m slowly limiting my online content like gawker and huffpo. What purpose does this article serve? It’s just bullying and name calling. Grocery store gossip. I swear these bloggers could be on the international space station looking at the beautiful site of earth from space and say something like “I dont…

My point is that this absurd demand for loyalty oaths does absolutely nothing to address the real issues.

Outrage is a bubble economy.

They say something, you write a scathing takedown of their inadequate responses.

I’m fine with men not mentioning it in there speech. If they did people would be bitching about them not really caring and only paying lip service.

Jesus, you guys are really trying to shave every bit of gristle off this bone arent you?

Yeah I’m super uncomfortable by this.

“He’ll probably never abuse someone like that again.”

It can feel good to try to understand people who hurt you (or try to hurt you). It helped me learn to cope with a lot of the feelings caused by abuse. But doing that was for my sake; it wasn’t about the redemption of the person who hurt me. And it can’t be viewed as a duty or a moral imperative. And too often it is…

Well that seems like a reasonable comparison.

Maybe it’s just that my brain’s swimming in dopamine after reading this story, but I don’t see him in the abuser role. Abusers have the power to inflict pain. He showed up pathetic and powerless. She could have ignored him or verbally kicked him aside but chose to treat him as a human and he responded.