My excuse is that it is delicious and awful and I hate myself.

You better start stalking me then. I lived through 4 fucking years of that godawful state, and I’m not about to temper my distaste for the place where I nearly died at least four times that I can name off the top of my head. Whether it be by heat exhaustion, too many guns in schools, or good ol’ fashioned bad drivers,…

I can tell when people are getting bored or annoyed when I’m talking. To miss all the cues that someone is embarrassed, miserable, and SO TOTALLY NOT WANTING TO BE THERE smacks of a serious amount of tone-deafness that would frankly be concerning. If it was totally obvious to the waitstaff, who have 50 million other…

Well, the whole thing is just a satire of fedora-wearing-milady-quoting-mra-talking-points. And I’ve heard it all from them, including the extremely out of shape dudes wearing tapout gear claiming they are stronger than female weightlifters and could take a female mma fighter (most of them also think they could take…

I actually agree with your view that women need to work on being more direct (I’m a woman, just FYI). I work very hard within my social circle to convince my girl friends to not only be more direct in rejections, but within their relationships as well. However, I in no way can convince any of them to work on their…

When I was a kid, I had a lot of chronic health problems. When you’re in pain & can’t sleep, the only thing on is TCM. That’s how I got into old movies. Anything with Bogie or film noir & I was SOoO in. I love Humphrey Bogart & I love film noir. They both have so much style & personality. From 10 on I wanted a fedora.…

Are you kidding me? This guy clearly had issues, women are trained to be nice and not make men feel bad, she gave him an insane hypothetical she assumed he’d forget about or she wouldn’t live to see, and HE HELD HER TO IT EVEN THOUGH HE COULD TELL THAT SHE WAS UNCOMFORTABLE. She started sobbing at the table. How can…

If you read other comments (I don’t recall if they’re in reply to you specifically, and I’m too lazy to trawl through the post again) you’ll see other people explaining WHY many women don’t take the direct route. All too many ‘Nice Guys’ don’t take the direct no well — personally speaking, I’ve been called a prude, a…

No, see, it can be both. Many stalkers genuinely believe that they have a romantic relationship with their victims. An inability or unwillingness to pick up cues like this is definitely a warning sign for bad behavior that could get violent.

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For sure. First things that came to my mind regarding the guy who tried to pour alcohol into the semiconscious woman: Either he’d drugged her in anticipation of date rape, or else she was ODing on heroin or pain pills. Good on the manager for calling the cops on that asshole.

Sure, yeah, sexual assault is NBD.

Sound to me that you didn’t give the password/code, they had to give you whatever they had in the kitchen that served as a front for... well, there may be some human trafficking involved.

yes, exactly. one overly persistent guy i tried that with promptly quit his job at a rival theme park, came to work for the same employer as myself, although in a different location (yay) so he could take advantage of employee free/discounted admissions to bug me at work, since it was a secured building.

No no, let’s definitely use fear as an excuse, because that’s pretty much the dominant emotion in these can’t-get-him-to-take-a-no exchanges, you massive, massive fool.

I'm guessing you're a guy. I'm guessing you haven't been viscerally scared and affected by dozens of news stories where a woman said no and was beaten/slashed/raped/stalked/killed. I'm guessing you don't realize that most women have to really work at responding directly to an undesired request because doing so is, as…

Being a creeper who won’t take no for an answer is ROMAAAANTIC! Movies & TV say so...

“I’ve been asking her out for years and back then she told me she wouldn’t go out with me til she hit the 5 year mark. So I kept count and here we are! I made her keep her promise!”

All I could think is ‘what a fucking asshole’. The woman managed to survive cancer and he used that knowledge to try to force her into a relationship by ‘celebrating’ this achievement. A celebration that was painfully uncomfortable and clearly not wanted then actually had the nerve to be upset that she didn’t…

Worse. He was being “just a friend” and constantly reminding her how great he is for his restraint.