Doing nice things for people is fine, but it is bizarre to act as though people who use the word nice in the above way are personally offending you. Would you get annoyed if someone made jokes about sleepy people? Particularly if you were aware that “sleepy people” had an alternative contemporary usage that didn’t…

I’m going to explain this once, in enough detail, and if you still don’t get it, I’m giving up.

DO IT! She’s incredible.

1. I’m sure some idiot thinks JT is in the closet, so there’s that.

Pepperspray is illegal here in the UK but there is nothing to stop me from carrying a spray can of deodorant in my bag which I am definitely not intending to spray in the face of people who threaten me, oh deary me no.

You do realize that the term “nice guy” has taken on negative connotations because there is a substantially good chance that if a man refers to himself as a “nice guy” he’s actually a hostile, entitled creeper?

You don’t sound very nice.

yup...i think it’s definitely a form of aggression

Did you click through to the Gothamist article? The comment section is filled with some dude who is just sure that the asshole must have approached the woman politely and appropriately, and is very unhappy that everyone is slandering the fine, upstanding gentlemen by assuming he could have said or done anything…

Pro tip- if your takeaway from this awful story is to make it all about your own personal hurt dudefeels...you might not actually be as “nice” as you think you are.

I’m sure there’s more to this story. He probably held a door open for a woman earlier in the day and was under serious emotional distress because he didn’t receive an enthusiastic blowjob in payment.

I’m afraid of being laughed at AND being murdered. By anybody.

Next time a man rolls his eyes at me about feeling threatened, I’m going to send them this link. Dear men: don’t blame women for being leery of speaking to you in public; blame the assholes who taught them that was necessary.

/inb4 some dudebro well-actuallys you about how women bruising men’s fragile tiny egos by not immediately and constantly and enthusiastically riding their dicks no matter what ever is just as evil and terrible as men murdering women.

Every time I hear someone say that women should just accept catcalls as compliments or that they’re harmless, I start getting angry.

The idea of “leave at the first sign” is slap in the face to the many women who will experience abuse for the first time when pregnant, after leaving work. That is actually a very common time for partners to turn abusive: during a first pregnancy when a woman is physically vulnerable and economically dependent.

“Don’t let it get ugly.” The subtext being, if it does get ugly, it’s because you let it. This is the same kind of garbage as those PSAs that put the onus on women not to get raped. It’s never about telling men not to rape, not to abuse - it’s always about telling us how not to get raped or get abused. And before…

Men definitely need education regarding not being abusive and how to disagree with their partners without shutting them down as crazy or with violence.