people don't unilaterally "decide" what language means. if someone were to bring to light some unfamiliar history of the term "cis" and explain that it hurts them to hear it then yeah, i actually would reconsider using it. (btw, nobody in this exchange asked for anything to be "banned.")

contrasting trans people with "actual women"…yeah, i really trust you to determine for everyone else what's "harmless"