Same thing with spates of concerning drinking behaviors. I actually found some old diaries from 12+ years ago when I was in my early/mind 20s. That person was a fucking train wreck, and she thought she was “handling” it all. Everything showed up, from severe mood swings to extreme weight fluctuations (and related…

I completely agree. I’ve only been at this 2 months, but I am BLOWN. AWAY. by how much advertising revolves around alcohol, in addition to socializing. I don’t even have regular/cable TV, just a Roku, and every fucking ad is Wild Turkey this or new spiked kombucha that.

Mainly that I had few coping mechanisms for stress, anger, or the unpredictability of life. Simple things like saying a bonehead thing at work and feeling embarrassed and fixating on it over and over in my head, then drowning it away with alcohol, or if I was being “good,” Benadryl so I could fall asleep and stop…

I just sold my house to my long term renter who’d been in it over 5 years. Overall sale prices were up (win for me) and he was able to afford to buy via private sale where we shared a lawyer, and the monthly mortgage and other costs were much less than his rent (win for him). Double wins for both of us, he now gets to…

Gorgeous! Got a solid 4 hours outside in the sun today, high 40sF felt like 60s. Glad I wore my face sunscreen!!

Hey everyone! I’m a regular commenter but have never posted to SNS.

Yikes and ouch! I’m lucky no one saw the tripping happen in real time, they just heard it and saw me sprawled on the floor trying to scramble back to my feet. I think the 2nd-worst feeling is the one where you try to “walk it off” like you’re find but your body and ego are in a lot of pain. My leg looked like that…

Thank you! I listened to the audiobook and then bought the paper copy, because there’s a lot of research plus practical tips, so I want to use it like a reference guide. Note that the author is a white woman millennial of means, so only a fraction of the “tips” were applicable to me (someone of limited means). Hence…

I just finished reading Quit Like a Woman as I embark on an alcohol-free journey. 57 days since my last drink but who’s counting? I’d love to see an analysis of that book here on Jez, and commenters’ takes on it. Like a Jez book club! The reviews span high highs and low lows, and I don’t really have any women or queer…

I tried to wear those wide leg gauzy pants that were in style several years ago. Tripped walking down a wide, unobstructed hallway. The sound of the THUNK and skin skidding on linoleum made my coworkers pop their heads out of their offices. Most painful and mortifying moment in my time at that job. Fuck wide leg…

Not bait. You asked for the commentariat’s opinions, there’s mine. Glad you acknowledge your privilege, have a great weekend.

I hear you and mostly agree. I think most of us can hold multiple complex issues in our heads and hearts at the same time. OP says Manson should go to jail for a long time then wants permission to keep listening to his music without feeling bad about it. The question highlights the answer. OP can very well address…

Can we agree there’s a difference in consuming a video game about a book series written 20 years ago, whose original author says shitty things, and actively consuming music by a direct physical and sexual abuser because it has a nice beat? I like your example about using our means to support worthy causes, but it’s…

If you’re a cis white man you could also just completely stop listening to Manson. He was severely abusing people while making that music. For all we know he was motivated to make certain music by his behaviors behind closed doors. Donating is a great start, and perhaps a step to help you wean off of any of his work…

I’d argue many Republican women are not dumb. They are, however, trying to align themselves with the patriarchy to show that you can have “traditional” values and gender roles and still climb the success ladder to power. They value power over equality. Only their power is inextricably linked with egomaniac and grifter…

If this is an honest question, I’d say make sure it’s a consensual group chat where everyone wants to be a part of it. My biggest pet peeve is getting plugged into a chat where I don’t know multiple or most of the numbers, which means they are people I don’t know intimately enough to talk to so candidly.

You were there?! Hope you’re doing ok as can be expected after something like that.

I’m an older millennial and so so careful about my online behaviors, virtual meetings, when I’m being recorded, etc. At a Zoom work meeting yesterday folks started talking mad shit about another department’s administrator. He’s a certified choad, and not our boss. It was only my second meeting being new in this…

I remember that one!

I really wish I hadn’t watched that tiktok of him simulating sex with bread, mustard, and a sausage. The “wiping the spit up and down” gave me a UTI through the screen.