And as the asshole in question, I think you are 100% right. Unfortunately we only realize those things in hindsight. The guy was SO nice and forgiving and accommodating in a way that I a) didn’t ask for and b) didn’t deserve, I think I just didn’t respect him after that. Yeah, it was a bonus to have a hot sweet guy…

It’s so terrible! I had that pattern for almost a decade. Then I got my shit together and decided to work hard to be a better person — more honest (with myself and others), more genuine with my shared time, more selfish with personal time. Its a bit hokey, but only a few months out of a LTR with a shitty person and a…

I’ve been commenting under this name going on 5 years and you're the first to make that reference/connection! I thought the profile photo would have helped a long time ago :)

I just re-read the story with vulva subbed in for growler and now I just laughed so hard I set off my asthma! 😂🍺

As far as real nightmare fuel, this takes the cake. I'm so sorry you had to go through that and am glad you trusted your gut and got out safely.

THIS ONE SHOULD WIN.

I already contributed, but I’m writing another one where *I* was the horror on the first date.

I was an adult woman and an adult man took me to a Buffalo Wild Wings located inside a movie theater on our first date, but we weren’t going to a movie. This was 2008-ish, so early enough that most people did not have smart phones and therefore didn’t necessarily have a camera in their pocket. After the server takes…

HEY EVERYONE! Today I learned Cardi calls herself Bardi. Thanks for the clarification and education. Unfortunately Kinja won’t let me edit my post to take out my comment about misspelling her name. I still don’t want to see pap pix of her or her kid, or any other person requesting privacy for their family, on Jezebel.…

Gotcha, thanks for the clarification!

Re: “Bardi” — it’s still up there! Sheesh!

Jezebel, please don’t participate in the paparazzi STALKING OF WOMEN AND CHILDREN. Please remove this post and respect Cardi’s privacy. Also, you misspelled her name in the article.

Drive by really slow with your camera phone clearly displayed and record them. “Say Hi to YouTube, you bigoted, un-Christian ASSHOLES”

I cringed so hard watching that exchange yesterday. And while he SHOULD apologize, his apology came after a 15 minute break where someone probably coached him, and made him out to be an upstanding guy. It glosses over the original exchange where he was totally out of line and frankly, extremely immature. He was trying…

Are you saying you’re an Iowan (or used to be)? Hey there, neighbor!

I totally understand what you mean. I really liked Sasheer’s characters when she was in skits. Then suddenly she wasn’t in any, or was in the background of a group skit and I couldn’t figure out why. She was fun, had a quirky voice, and was nice to look at — what more could they want from a player? Very sad she’s not…

Does Leslie Jones not count as a black female writer?

Was about to post this video. How and why has everyone forgotten/forgiven what a fucking creep Biden is?

I did report, and when nothing was done, I kept reporting several times a year. For 6 years. He was promoted. My files kept “getting lost” in the HR system. I changed jobs and moved states and lost income and progress in my career.

I purchased and then returned Issa Rae’s audio book...it was just plain bad. The writing, her narration (she couldn’t even give life to reading her own written word?), the topics were a cringey snoozefest, and not in the entertaining or endearing way. I've never said this out loud because everyone seems to love her…