Exactly. I’m friends with the wife, and I’m not a sex therapist, but I am in the sexuality health field. We have tried to brainstorm every possible solution, including patience and kindness (which she is taking very seriously now, considering their vows). He mentioned letting her have a polyamorous sexual relationship…

Yeah, he was raised Catholic and his uncle is a Catholic priest, and he’d entertained joining the priesthood for a while. I’m not a therapist, but I’m a sexual health researcher. I think he resigned his brain to an asexual/celibate way of life before he met his now-wife, and just can’t undo that many years of shame…

This. A very close friend of mine is married to a man in his mid-30s who still feels extreme guilt having sex with his wife. They were each others’ one-and-only, but being indoctrinated that sex is filthy and you are a terrible person doesn’t just flip a switch when it’s suddenly in a context condoned by your church.…

I agree. My partner and I just watched this on the news, and are so perplexed that this is happening at the same time of all of the abortion regulations in our country. Those who want to outlaw abortion say “just put the baby for adoption!” but kids will still sit in orphanages and foster care now that people can…

I matched with a pilot once on tinder, but I didn’t know it until we messaged. It was about 4 p.m. and went something like:

I teach a large lecture at a large university and worry about the stampede of students panicking and fleeing when they hear shots. Forget trying to barricade a door or keep people safe, it is going to be chaos. I also worry about being expected to hurl myself between students and bullets. We are expected to “treat…

I teach a sexuality lecture course with 400+ students in a lecture hall with no fewer than 5 entrances. Even before school shootings became a weekly occurrence, I have always been nervous about my safety being in front of that many students. We rarely get a lively “debate” during class, but I do have those that stay…

Joe Cocker was gay? Trying to do some internet sleuthing and not finding anything...

Agreed all around! Also, as someone who rolled her eyes when seeing Mad Max in the theater with a male friend because I had no idea what it was about, I was FLOORED by the beautiful artistry, action, and feminist overtones. I had just shaved my head a few weeks before, and walked out about a foot taller with pride…

I enjoyed reading it. Something about snarking on women’s’ dresses on a “feminist” blog doesn’t sit well with me. I also appreciate the films about surviving sexual abuse without showing it, thanks for bringing that to light!

I used to coordinate a teen group for a Planned Parenthood. This is fantastic! The closest we got to fame was when the teens starred in a local access TV commercial for the STI testing bus. A bus would park outside the high schools and the kids could ask questions, get tested, and get free condoms. Obviously, the…

Agreed. The new TRAPPED documentary is supposed to be really great. I’m trying to work with my local arthouse theater to bring it to town. While they are on board theoretically, showing an abortion documentary also opens them up for criticism and potential protesting from the antis. So, like anything with abortion…

Did you watch the entire clip? He does more in 16 minutes to explain and provide context for the upcoming Supreme Court case than any article I’ve read about the subject — and I’m IN the abortion field and have a comprehensive understanding. He’s aiming for a broad audience who might be liberal-leaning, but not…

As someone who works in the abortion field, I am SO appreciative of this segment. John has done more to sum up what is going on in a digestible 16 minute clip than I could ever do. When you’re in the field you can obviously talk for HOURS about any topic, because you have a lot of knowledge, but also because you see…

In states where similar laws are already on the books, providers often make a show out of how patronizing and ridiculous these requirements are. For example, one might say, “The state of XYZ thinks that you can’t make your own decision about your pregnancy, and requires me to read you this description about the fetus…

And of those women who report abortion regret, most of it is due to the stigma around abortion, and not feeling like they can openly talk to anyone about it. The antis jump on “abortion regret” cases, and those women probably receive more love and attention by being regretful than they ever would (or think they would)…

There are actually lots of studies about this. One of the more recent shows that ~99% of women who view the ultrasound still go on to abort. Those that elect not to abort were on the fence about their decision anyway. They also wouldn’t know if that person came back for an abortion again later; they may have just…

I replied to another post, so sorry for the repeat info. But below is a really great book called “Dangerous Pregnancies” by a public health and law scholar — it discusses the German Measles epidemic in the 60s that was resulting in birth defects, and the women who pushed for elective abortion services in order to…

There is SO MUCH drama about letting women plan their pregnancies, and now Zika is pushing it into the forefront of the public eye. This isn’t the first time a birth defect-causing disease has sparked abortion discussion. Below is a link to an AMAZING book “Dangerous Pregnancies” by public health and law scholar…

The “needing to feel whole” storyline is overplayed, and actually messes with people’s real lives. My niece is adopted and went overseas to find her birth mother, who agreed to a meeting after 6 years of back-and-forth “okay, yes come, wait no don’t.” She said finally meeting her birth mom was one of the most awkward,…