This is so interesting, thank you for sharing! When I was buying my house I asked my realtor if certain neighborhoods had different reputations. I *meant* reputations like, mostly young families, more lively nightlife, more retired folks, more students and rentals, etc. I honestly meant day-to-day lifestyle stuff. He…

I started working in clinics when I was 18, ended up teaching at a university and blending research and practice. It’s a very interesting job, and really awesome once you feel out like-minded people. It’s not-so-great when you’re excited about your work and people send you death threats or call you a murderer. The…

I have tons of recommendations for books (I’m an abortion researcher), but if you want something pretty AND informative to look at for some quick-and-easy facts about the thousands-year old history of abortion, check out this artist’s work:

They are going by far outdated information, and are probably trying to protect themselves from the sometimes-painful insertion. No kids and no abortions ever, here, and my IUD insertion was easy-breezy and I’ve had it with no issues for 4 years.

Former clinic worker here. The best way to piss off the protestors is to photograph them. Point your cell phone right in their faces, making sure the shutter sound is on, and snap away. We weren’t allowed to engage with them at all while employed, but as I exited the clinic on my last day before my move to another…

I participated in a really interesting conversation about this a few months ago on a thread about Sweet Briar College closing. I would say let’s not “blame” anyone. I went to a small liberal arts college and got liberal arts degrees and was happily employed during college and after, and in the 10+ years since. I have…

Hi, someone with disordered eating here. We do get professional help. Not being able to not eat food that’s in front of you royally fucking sucks. (That was a double negative. Translation: Some people cumpulsively eat food that’s in front of them, even if it is to the point that it makes them physically sick). I’m not…

I’m not sure mine is negging either, so I will follow your lead.

Totally. That’s the downside of it. I was once at a concert with some other tall folks of all genders, and there was a dude being a drunk douchebro idiot. We all (about 6 of us) decided to stand shoulder-to-shoulder and block his view. The shortest of the group was 6’, the tallest about 6’7”. We called it the Wall of…

Yes to all of it, but specifically the height-centric future tall women are pushed toward. It’s like you have to be productive with your height, and you can’t just exist in the world and do whatever like an average-height woman can. I didn’t do sports, and people always took the time to comment on what a “waste” it…

UGH. This movie came out when I was in high school and a bunch of boys would yell this at me daily as I walked through the halls. They would also holler “KEEP IT IN THE CIRCUS.” I’m still friends with one of those guys and recently told him how terrible that was for me as a teen and he teared up and apologized…

I actually royally fucked up my feet as a teen for refusing to go to size 12. This was before the internet could have told me all the ways to buy nice large ladyshoes. I wore 2-sizes-too-small sneakers for 2 years until my feet resembled smushed baked potatoes, and I maxed out at size 11, which are still really…

Haha, I just posted telling her not to tell her kid “it gets better.” I agree it totally DOES get better, but god that sucked so much to hear when I was young. You really can’t see that far into the future when everyone makes a spectacle about your height.

It might sound counter-intuitive, but DON’T reassure her with “Oh, you’ll appreciate it when you’re older.” That doesn’t help when you’re a super tall tween/teen with everything else going on. Also don’t push her into sports, or anything else “made” for tall people. Treat her like a normal person, support her…

Spot on. I also never thought about my ED as being a way to cope with being 6’ tall at 12 years old— thank you for that insight (for real, no sarcasm here).

This is a great comment. I was very interested in the dynamic between Tressa, her boyfriend, and her mom (and later, dad). She seemed to have agency in the beginning of the film, and her boyfriend was even “cool” with her work. As the film progressed he not only expressed his distress and confusion about her work, but…

I watched the film and have the same questions. Also, the fact that “free” porn sites deliver brief snippets of porn films for viewers to consume at a high rate in a short amount of time — there needs to be “new” porn of all flavors coming out constantly to keep up with the demand. This is why these women are…

While we’re on words... it should be if the “woman” lives or dies, not the “mother.” Anti-choice language creeps into even pro-choice policies when we keep identifying all women as “mothers.”

I’m with you on falling off the grid. Been seriously looking at seasonal jobs in various island communities. I was a bartender in college and think I really could be happy drifting from place to place in beautiful weather surrounded by a smish-smash of other service folks and annoying (but hopefully good tipping)…

Totally different industry, but my partner moved here from another state two weeks ago. He’d looked for jobs remotely before moving, and had the same progress as you’ve described. When he moved here he submitted a few more applications and followed up with previous ones, saying he was now living locally. He had 4 job…