Let me start off by saying that I’m sorry that was your experience. I truly am. Of course your mother wasn’t wrong in protecting you from him.

Hey hometowns will always hold a special places in the hearts of those that escaped!

God San Jose really is the worst isn’t it?

And that’s totally your choice. But if I had the money for it I would absolutely bail a loved one out. Jail is a horrible place and it’s so much harder to adequately assist your council while behind bars. You also lose your job and more than likely your housing and car because you can’t pay for it.

Folks have a right to bail. Should he still be in jail, 2 years later, having not been convicted of anything yet?

It sounds like he was confusing sexism with objectification. I’m so glad he took the time to educate himself.

“I’m going to focus on my faaaaaaaamily”

I get that higher standard thing, and it’s bullshit. I don’t want you or any trans person to have to deal with shit like objectification or violence or the pay gap or any of that garbage. I don’t want us to be equals because we both have to put up with an equal amount of bullshit, knowwhatimsayin?

I went to a small civil war museum in Virginia a few years ago. In one of the cases, they had one of the bone saws as well as a bone from an amputated leg.

Also I love your username and I don’t want to fight with a fellow Whovian.

When did I EVER tell you how to comport yourself? Or any other trans woman? When did I say or even IMPLY that trans women should shoulder any burden in regards to cis society?

If it sounds like I’m insisting that trans women be excluded, then you aren’t listening very well. I’m not going to keep re-typing what I’ve already said just so you can accuse me again of being exclusionary.

Objectification of any body, cis or trans, IS WRONG. Why should I be happy that trans women now get to partake in a super shitty aspect of womanhood?

First off, I totally see your point. It’s shitty to not be allowed into a club, even if that club sucks. I get that. But why would you want to be normalized by a system that demeans and degrades? Isn’t this a chance to dismantle the system that has defined and oppressed so many for so long, and maybe start a new…

Who’s singling out trans women? My argument is that neither trans nor cis should be objectified. Am I supposed to applaud that fact that this trans woman now gets to partake in a really shitty part of woman hood? “Congrats! Now you can be ogled and judged solely on your looks and perceived fuckability!”

They liked and celebrated a very specific version of the female form. Now once did I ever open that magazine and see anyone that looked like me. All it did was reinforce stereotypes of what a woman “should” look like.

I think the argument is more “we shouldn’t objectify trans or cis women.”

I never saw an apology. I saw a “you misinterpreted what I said” kind of thing

Ugh. Why are some dudes just the absolute worst?

It has nothing to do with how “hot” you are. I’ve gotten cat called while looking like a hot dumpster fire. I’m short and overweight and for the most part give zero fucks about my appearance. The only thing that has stemmed the catcalls is putting a ring on my left hand. Because god forbid a man disrespect another…