Bad news: Feeling like I let myself get taken advantage of (again) by my ex last weekend. I was coincidentally heading to [old city, where he still lives] to meet up with friends and, after months of no contact, my ex texts me a couple of days before I was supposed to head out there, telling me he was sorry he hurt…

I thought they did it because that’s where they’re softest (meaning, no bone protection), and where all their important organs are. If you rub their bellies from kittenhood and they trust you, they don’t have a problem with it. I blow raspberries on my kids’ bellies and they don’t blink. (They probably roll their…

I absolutely agree with this, in addition to doubling down on my “no secretarial work” theory.  Set your sights lower and work your way up but do not confuse being a receptionist in an office to being an underling in an office who can actually go up.

Do not take a job as a secretary. Don’t do it. There is nothing wrong with being a secretary, but if you don’t want to be one, the easiest way to get pigeonholed for YEARS in secretarial work is to take a job as a secretary. It is VERY hard to break from secretarial to analytical types of work. I took a…

Wait. Melania is younger than her potential daughter-in-law?

I’m always surprised by the number of young women who will criticize older women for ageist reasons - they’re not aging gracefully enough, they’re trying too hard to be sexy, they’ve let themselves go, they shouldn’t be in a bar at their age, etc. They don’t seem to realize they’re upholding standards that will be…

Guilfoyle turns 50 next year.  But industry standards she is already too old to be on TV.  Certainly by Fox News standards she is over the hill.

Anyway

does she not realize that she too will get older (if lucky enough)?  i despise Pirro, but ageism is awful.

right? alone is perfectly fine. lonely is not. and there are few situations more lonely than being with the wrong person.

Sometimes I think that they’d prefer we dump them for someone else. If there is no someone else, it means we dumped them because we just didn’t want to be with them.

Yep. And the “happiness isn’t real unless shared” or “relationships are the most important thing in life” tropes. All to shame people who are perfectly happy on their own. I’m pretty sure they are said by codependent people who are jealous of others’ independence, but hell there’s a LOT of people like that so the…

thank you SO MUCH for this comment - I just ended a year-long relationship on Saturday and I relate to this 100%. A few months ago we both renewed our (individual) leases and I was so relieved when he told me he signed his because I was TERRIFIED he was going to ask me to move in together. Big red flag! So I broke up…

One of my least favorite things in the world is when people throw out “alone” (as in: not having a romantic partner) as the worst thing in the world. Like if you’re not dating someone/in a romantic relationship you don’t have friends and family and colleagues and hobbies and interests and projects to color your life.…

So true. A few years ago I was dating this guy and I flat out said to him, because we were talking about relationships in general, that I’d rather be alone than in a miserable marriage. And he was stunned, just absolutely stunned. Because there isn’t really a script for that in our culture, where woman aren’t in…

in my early forties, I broke up with a perfectly nice man who was not meeting my emotional and sexual needs. he knew this, and stated flatly that he had no intention of changing, yet was shocked - SHOCKED - that I broke up with him, a perfectly nice man.
he actually said to me, incredulously, “you would rather be ALONE…

I don’t think people are afraid of divorce because it’s a dirty word. I think people are afraid of it because it’s fucking expensive.

Your version of the truth is colored by your experience. I see garbage men with amazing girlfriends and wives all the time. Those immigrant women? They’re with those guys generally because for one reason or another, they are physically dependent on that partnership. Yeah, that will do it. Generally speaking, men are…

Exactly. I know a ton of women who get overlooked by men. At most they get a guy who treats them poorly or just wants to sleep with them a few times a week while continuing to search for a hotter girlfriend.

Breaking up, these days at least, is the ultimate feminist act. It’s saying that I have my own money, job, apartment/house, independence, whatever that I don’t need this man who isn’t meeting my needs in this relationship. This sentiment is true now more than ever because for the longest time a man with a good job…