I get that you don’t like feelig as if women are afraid of you—that’s good, even! But with all due respect, I’d have been keeping half an eye on you as well. Yes, living in fear is pointless and bad, etc., but situational awareness is an important key to keeping yourself out of the “abducted, raped, and/or stored in…

You should have adjusted your pace so you were pulling ahead or allowing her to. Women know not to speed up or give any kind of response because it triggers the chase instinct. I am surprised that she didn't duck into a store for a minute to shake you, though.

I understand your point. The problem is what this fear has done to our entire culture. Here’s why the not all men counterargument falls apart:

:( I feel you. That is such a terrible feeling. My hobby is skydiving, and that community is very male-dominant. Often in a bad way, with a lot of drinking and drug use, it makes guys feel very “brave” and they will ask to see you flash by the fire, a lot of public nudity, be very aggressive and not take no for an…

“Fear isn’t constructive. Nor is terror. And at the end of the day it is merely a barrier. I’m sick of this two-sided awfulness where most people end up never getting the point.”

I met a guy online and agreed to go out with him recently but I really don’t want to anymore because he’s pinging my distrust something fierce. He didn’t like that I wouldn’t give him on demand pictures and he suggested that after grabbing a drink for our first date we take a walk in a park (or similar.) I noped outta…

You’re not all bad but can I be honest? I wish the good ones spoke out more against the awful ones and were more vocal and protective. I feel like whenever there’s a jerk around, or a dangerous guy, no one steps up. No man calls him out. They are left to continue to be awful. Always.

Goddammit yes. I read a local newspiece today about reports that a guy in a van has made several attempts to abduct women walking on their own and the police released a statement saying “We advise women not to go out walking alone, especially whilst listening to music”. How about we advise men not to fucking try and…

I get that you care and you want to be an ally but don’t ask the women in this space to make you feel better about being a man; use your voice to join them in condemning this man’s violence without involving your own ego. A woman is dead. Your post, although well-intentioned, is a derail.