For the dry hands thing, my husband bought him some of this at like, Walmart or Target (I can't remember where): http://okeeffescompany.com/working-hands Now his hands are way soft. His fingers were so dry they split and this stuff has just about completely healed them up in almost no time at all.

Poop bacteria =/= poop. Nope. Not the same. This is more equivalent to when you have a cold and you don't have a tissue so you just snort your snot down your throat. On the continuum of gross things, it's like a 4.

People are really grossed out by this. Like...what do you think happens to vaginal secretion during cunnilingus? It evaporates? I'm not saying we should all go out and start a vagina juice diet fad or anything but...it's not that gross. It's not poop-level gross.

At the risk of being That Person: so a white man can't get indicted for killing an unarmed black man, but an Asian-American man can...?

Thank you so much for this. I've struggled with Trich for 15 years. I started when i was a child being bullied in school, but it got less severe as I stopped doing it with the ferocity that I used to as a child. But I would often find my hands tugging at my hair, and pulling strands. The feeling, the sound, the relief…

I pill and I pick. I don't pull enough hair to make bald spots, but I do the hunt, then the pluck, then the examination.

I must've been weirdly lucky then, because when I told my therapist she not only knew what it was but said it was related to my anxiety (true) and there's not a whole lot you can do other than try to treat/deal with the anxiety (also true).

I have been a "picker" since I was like, 9. At least. I specifically remember being in 6th grade and I was just going at my scalp like a weirdo and some kid was like "Itchy head? Hahahaha!" I remember it nearly 20 years later so it obviously shamed me, but I'm still scratchin' away.

If you don't mind my asking...how DO you deal with it? I've compulsively pulled my hair for years (I only recently learned that it was actually a thing with a name - not sure if that makes me feel better or worse). I'd really like to be "treated" for it, but I'm not sure how that would even work. Right now I've just…

I just wanted to say thanks for posting this.

I pick at my scalp. I find it so enjoyable for some bizzare reason that I can't put into words. The only thing that scares me straight is stories of people going bald from it. But it's so satisfying to pick until there are scabs and then to pick at the scabs themselves!

There's an excellent series of posts by writer Quinnae Moongazer expressing similar sentiments. Moongazer emphasizes that a culture of outrage hurts the people activist culture is supposed to be supporting, by making them scared to participate in a movement supposedly set up for their own benefit. Part 1 and Part 2,…

If you find out how to prevent disingenuous asswipes from co-opting the language you use to deconstruct and critique problematic things we will rechristen the internet in your name.

Jia, honest question: If this article hadn't been written by a guy, what would you have based your rebuttal of his arguments on? Because I'm a woman but I basically could have written that article. I tend to feel the same way as this guy and I agree with him that while I agree with the generally noble intentions…

Finally! Robert Mitchum. He was one very good looking man. I feel like Benecio Del Toro has a little bit of Mitchum in him...

I MEAN COME ON!

This guy. Marvin Gorgeous Gaye.

he'd forget what he was doing mid way through.

The ghost of Gregory Peck could get it x100: