With the obliviousness, depending on the context you have a few options. My mother did a bit of this, usually expressed by being chronically late. By an hour. So we would lie to her about what time stuff started if she had to be there. That’s an easy work around.

At me. I won’t offer solutions or platitudes. But I can always be counted on for a fuck it all or a that’s the worst.

I used ancestry to get some answers about my paternal side. I found out that the lies I was trying to uncover were true! But I also found out I can’t be descended from my grandmother. I mean, down to the percentages shit was accurate. But where I should have had a 25% chunk of German or Swiss, it was England…

You mention in another post that they are narc-y. Depends on how bad they are, but honestly, just not seeing them is the only way to “win.” And not like petty win either, but end of abuse win.

Some phrases to practice-

Following you for updates on this therapy. I keep getting burned by talk therapists.

The last book in the Tiffany Aching series. The Shepherd’s Crown. It’s a youth oriented set of Discworld books by Terry Pratchett. I weep from pretty much the first page.

Yes “productive fighting” exists. Yes you need counseling. That “you hate meeee” bullshit is manipulative AS FUCK. Super sensitive is not an excuse for anything other than “I don’t feel like dealing with shit like an adult.” Hence the manipulative whining.

Even with the years of trauma and the ptsd I don’t get “triggered” easily. In fact, I make it a point to try to overcome it.* But this fucking guy. I was working at a very unprofessional bar, cooking. And at one point I had talked with the bar manager, a woman, about my abusive exhusband. When this all came out, she…

Thank you for this explanation. None of this is clear, but now I have a better handle on it.

It is this sort of situation (because there is no context in which this is even remotely okay) for the which the phrase “you are not helping” was invented.

I am attempting (in a half assed way) to get more familiar with Spanish. I live in a primarily immigrant neighborhood and with olive skin and black hair assumptions are made about my language abilities lol. I have definitely been laughed at, in a nice way, for not speaking Spanish.

Thank you!

Secular homeschooling please.

Considering there was an article published shortly before this one on why homeopathy is bullshit, I think it will be okay.

Kazoos bubbles and cupcakes?

Screaming into a pillow can also be helpful.

If you use a service, see if you can buy some old, no longer suitable for clients trifolds. They are the best burp cloths, rags, floor barriers for naked tummy time. I’d also recommend buying your own. Some butt ointments will permanently stain and at least one service near me discourages using some of the best creams…

Just in case you haven’t found the answer, sleeping on your back can mess with nerves and circulation later in pregnancy. And frankly, it is so freaking uncomfortable I don’t know why anyone would need a scientific explanation. There’s a reason pregnant women like to have a ton of pillows or big body pillows. You can…

Keep in mind for every generally accepted parenting thing, it’s often about the perspective.