And it’s back to my theory that I post often:

Warning: gonna get philosophical a bit here...

I keep telling people.... I’m never going to meet anyone, every time I think I meet someone decent, I get fucked over.

That’s exactly it; these quotes ring of entitlement to me, which is why I have no sympathy. Mentioned:

No sympathy whatsoever. The first guy that you mention - the hair dresser admits that one option is to go out and have sex with a random girl. Maybe if he treated women as human emotional beings worthy of investing time and energy in getting to know instead of an “option” he wouldn’t be the single guy with a bunch of…

There are men who’ve learned they can force women—or anyone—to do whatever they want, simply by being relentlessly persistent.

YES. I call this “rape by attrition.” There are men who’ve learned they can force women—or anyone—to do whatever they want, simply by being relentlessly persistent. They’re like predators who wound their prey and follow it until it succumbs to exhaustion and blood loss. These fuckers have made passive-aggression work…

It’s really odd, that feeling of “my situation wasn’t rape because this commonly accepted version of rape is SO MUCH WORSE”. There was no violence in mine. There was no nefarious stranger. But there was coercion. There was manipulation. There was the persistence, the wearing down. I didn’t want to do it, but I did -…

Yes, same here. There were many circumstances leading to that point that made it glaringly obvious once I was able to look at it with clear eyes, that made it rape. But at the moment, I sort of just gave in and disassociated.

Same exact experience. And another time where it was slightly different. For years I framed it as “not rape” but I was drunk in the first case and said no, and in the second I was coerced. It took me a long time to get to grips with it being ok to have been “raped”. I didn’t want to think of myself that way but if a…

Something sort of similar happened to me, and I’ve always wondered about it. No drawn out negotiations, but I was drunk and didn’t want to and said I didn’t and he just did it anyway, and I let him. I was attracted to him and probably would have had sex with him, willingly, under other circumstances, but at that point…

Ugh. The bit about calling the ex, like asking permission to be admitted to the ex’s “property”.

If there is a woman alive who has not had this experience, I’d like to meet her, because she is a rare, rare creature. I’m so grateful to you for sharing your story and elaborating on the complexity of consent. So many people want to make it a black-and-white, yes-or-no issue, and the more people who stand up and say…

“I also think there is a very special place in hell for those who refuse to help other’s in an emergency. I think people should be publicly shamed for being assholes.”

OK, we can start with the “close the borders to the refugees” set if you like, who want to know the nationality of everyone...

Orrrrr.....maybe you need to explain why the nationality of everyone involved is so important to you? Is it because you’re incapable of processing an event without first filtering it through your various biases? Why is nationality even a concern if not for prejudicial reasons? Can we not just say the perpetrators are…

And that voice. Don’t even get me started on his stupid voice. Ugh!

I just can’t get over how there is no blood at all anywhere. Regardless of all the other evidence, with no blood, I don’t know how anyone could have gone along with the theory of the crime they presented.

From the article: “Dean Strang, the defense attorney that stole our hearts, countered that the DNA under the hood was never identified as sweat and didn’t require that Avery had ever touched the car”.

Funny how they are so certain of his guilt, and yet their best “damning” evidence is circumstantial and does nothing to connect victim + suspect + crime scene, nor does it fill in huge gaps in evidence like no blood stains or Halbach’s DNA anywhere.

By normalizing women’s breasts and desexualizing them, you eliminate (or at least reduce) rapist reactions like this douchebag’s: “Hurrr, if I can see your tits, it’s my right/natural inclination to grab them”, which is disgusting. It plays into the whole “You’re asking for it” bullshit that rape culture bases itself…