I saw Hispanic and black preteens playing with a be be gun outside not too long ago and I asked them to play with that in their yard and not out in the open. And when I explained why, they understood and went inside.
Then, I was even more sad that two 12 year Olds fully understood that they could be murdered for…

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Yes. I have that delayed reaction thing really bad as well. It's like I have to think it fully through before I make a move so the guy, in the meantime, always thinks everything is cool now. They don't realize I'm silently coming up with my exit strategy.

Mmmm hmm. I've been getting the "I've matured since then. Don't you believe in second chances?"

It's been at least a decade. This happened in my 20s, I'm now 30 something and he still talking about I was the one that got away.

It just works so well.

Isn't it crazy how they deduce that you never cared based on how you react? What does you sleeping with someone say? That you adore me?

Yep. That's my MO. I can ignore people like a champ! When I found out my ex cheated, I just never spoke to him again. Didn't make a scene or nothing, as much as I wanted to. He's still trying because I've never given him a reaction.

Dang. I drove the get away car when my friend wanted to smash her exes windows. I should have done better, I guess…

Me too. I'm often accused of being cold but they have no idea.

I'm from Texas and I'd probably just turn around and leave if I walked in on that situation. I might knock over everything I could on the way out, though.

They just really out here chilling like we don't need them.

I loved louise venting to tina in the bathroom each time.

We have had a very similar experience.

Didn't watch the Grammys, just waited on someone to post her performance. Even in its simplicity (for her) I knew no one else came close to the entertainment value that she provides. I knew lemonade wouldn't win even though it was the most critically acclaimed and talked about album of the year. Not because she didn't…

I listen to don't hurt yourself every single day.

My mom called me James Brown for fining my dancers for being late and missing stage cues. When I work with live bands they get fined too. They always assume that the lead dancer doesn't know they missed a note or came in late. They don't realize that I grew up playing piano, clarinet, flute and drums. I know your…

I have just always assumed that some white person back in the day made this up because they couldn't figure out how the poor black folk across the tracks always looked so nice and pulled together even though they were struggling financially.
Jordans, weave or not, we can pull an outfit out of thin air. Everybody ain't…

See that makes it even worse. Ranting about someone not being able to take a joke while, simultaneously, not taking a joke.

I mean, I don't actually want it but it's the principle. I want the car too. Just because principle.

This is why black women never really lose arguments, even when we're wrong. Because we forget nothing and have a poetic way of introducing infractions into the conversation.