Yeah, where I’m from a stag & doe is a fundraiser party for a wedding. It may take the place of a bachelor(ette) party, but more usually both go ahead since they serve different functions.

Especially adopting rescue animals that have health issues. I do my best to adopt the hard luck cases, but I have to be realistic about my budget, and while I have loved my senior kitties and had a little sweetie with a facial deformity, I know I couldn’t afford to do right by a young kitty who would require, say…

As a kid I grew up in public housing. The number of dads who held child support hostage unless their exes fucked them every month was astounding. It happened so much the women involved viewed it as shitty but normal and the dads were counting on the moms not having the resources in terms of energy, money, or time to…

My region has recently cracked down on migrant sex workers from Asia, and, despite their best efforts, have found zero cases of trafficking or coercion. They have, however, begun deporting Asian women who are working here illegally, but by choice, making those remaining who may be in danger afraid of speaking out for…

That’s not the way it has to be. I was 18 when I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, who was 27. We shared similar values at the time, feeling that we wanted to have sex only with someone we loved and trusted, and were willing to wait until that person came along. He had some mild difficulties with his boner that first…

If my sister was seeing someone awesome and they decided to ask her to be their wife at my wedding, I’d be over the moon that everyone close to us got to share two such special moments in one day, especially if they asked me and my spouse first. Not everyone minds sharing the spotlight. I’d actually welcome having…

I don’t live somewhere with a subway, but whenever I travel to one I worry about this because I attract a seemly huge number of people who want to be my friend/maybe murder me. It’s become a depressing joke among my friends that they can’t EVER leave me alone because two minutes later they emerge from the coffee shop…

Uh huh. Did you read my comment? I have been in that exact scenario several times and had zero issues besides some minor annoyance directed my way because most men are basically cool people. Rapists don’t happen because there is an opportunity. They make an opportunity. Quit pretending that sexual assault is the…

The problem isn’t this one film. The problem is pretty much every film ever set in Hawaii erases the non-white population, when in reality that population is the majority. Plus there are so few major roles written for Asian women that it’s a slap in the face to cast a white person in it. Again, if it wasn’t part of a…

I wish I had something like this! I have one (or maybe two, no one knows who my dad’s dad is) Mohawk grandparent and a dad who is visibly and culturally native. I grew up on our trap line and lived fairly traditionally. I’m white as fuck while my sister is “vaguely ethnic-looking” and gets “are you part native/Asian…

Tattoo needles are disposable and fresh ones are used every time. If a place is reputable and licensed, there is nothing to worry about. Most cities will have inspection reports available and compliance with all kinds of health and hygiene rules is a condition of operation. Avoid people working out of their basements.

You do know that tattoo artists use new needles every time, right? I find lots are even opting for disposable tubes nowadays, though I wouldn’t worry if one opts for re-usable ones sterilized in the autoclave. Autoclaves are tested every two weeks and the results filed with the city health inspection folks as a…

There’s no such thing as “being aroused to a point you can’t turn back.” Bullshit. There’s just rapist pieces of shit who think their frustration in the moment is worth more than another human’s safety. I’ve had a handful of instances where something wasn’t working for me—something suddenly hurt, I got dizzy and…

Seriously. I’m queer as all hell and love me some naked ladies and have somehow managed not to check out a single person in a change room. Ever. It’s called keeping your eyes to yourself and most people manage just fine. I would have zero issues with sharing change rooms/shitting with people of any gender if some…

Seriously. I was at a cottage recently and the host’s cousin brought his sons, aged ~2 and 4. They immediately stripped down and started splashing around in the lake. It was adorable and not at all sexual unless you have some issues you should seek help for. Child molesters do not choose victims based on bathing suit…

I think people probably just think that we’re not the flower types. And I’m typically not, but if someone I cared about got me flowers, I’d be glad that they tried to do something nice for me, even if it’s not what I would have picked (heh heh).

I give them occasionally. I’ve discovered that dudes don’t seem to like…

Usually refers to trans/genderqueer folks of North American indigenous heritage, but some other flavours of aborginal queers use it as well. If anyone has a better/more personal explanation I’d love to know about it.

I recently asked a pal, “Who even does PCP anymore?” and his reponse was “Dirty French [as in Quebecers] punks.” :-/

Exactly! My grandpa was the manly centre of our family, a handsome, strong, hardworking man, and he cried every time a relative arrived for a visit, and every time they left (most lived at least several hours away). He sobbed silently at every funeral where the deceased was someone’s mother. His family was his world…

I work with a few girls who entered the sex trade aged 14-17 and are still working. Those girls are hard as fuck, but incredibly helpful to any other ladies down on their luck or learning the ropes and do a lot of activism against any kind of criminalization of prostitution as they know first-hand that it does fuck…