No photos (thanks people who harass sex workers!) but I’m an invisible mix. My dad is native with his father’s heritage being a complete mystery (we don’t know who his dad is). While he’s not very dark, he’s visibly aboriginal. Where I’m from, lots of people are mixed white/native. Mom’s dad’s side is 100% Irish. Her…

A few years back when I was in university, an honest-to-God, unmarked white van stopped near me while I was walking home and I thought the driver was lost. I was ready to give directions, but he asked “Why are you wearing those boots?” Before I could even pull together a response (“I like them”), he said, “Don’t you…

My sister got sent home to change twice on her first day of high school for dressing “inappropriately” (aka: she had huge boobs). The second time, my mom stormed into the principal’s office and dumped a garbage bag full of all her clothes onto his desk and told him to sort them into what she could and couldn’t wear.…

Miracles happen. There were a lot of creeps, but my second Tinder date turned out to be the best looking guy I’d ever seen in the flesh. He was smart, funny, employed, a talented artist, and stupidly sweet. Our anniversary is coming up and we still can’t believe we met on motherfucking Tinder.

If this doesn’t work…

Yep! I was 12 the first time an adult man hit on me and it has been a regular occurrence ever since. I DID NOT look older. I was obviously a child with tits, but gross guys know they’re more likely to get away with harassing a kid than a grown woman. I was so afraid to walk to one friend’s house because there was a…

Being a conventionally attractive lady who dates other conventionally attractive ladies, I catch guys filming/photographing us holding hands, sitting with our arm around the other on the bus AT LEAST once a week. Like dykes are zoo animals. Once had a guy follow us for blocks ducking behind cars and shooting us…

When I worked at a shitty corner store as a kid, I was informed that they were only insured for $300 in the case of the register being robbed, so anything over $300 had to be dropped in the safe shoot. It was implied that I’d be held responsible for anything lost over the $300. At the time I felt like that probably…

Are most women planning to have their children that closely together? I don’t run in circles with many people excited to become parents.

My sister and I are less than a year apart and another pal is 11 months older than her brother. In pretty much every case I know of with births spaced very closely together, the…

Mine is a burlesque performer. I’ve literally had people mistake me for her while she’s still on stage. We’re both slim white-looking women in our 20’s with long, dark red hair, but that’s where I think the similarity ends. She’s a lithe, willowy slim, whereas I’m bustier and curvier. Her friends come up and say hi…

I see where you’re coming from, I just can’t imagine anyone being able to pay for their children’s education. I know it’s a real thing people do, but it’s so far removed from my reality that I can’t wrap my head around it. It’s just not “a thing” in my circles.

We may have a sweet, sweet healthcare system but our…

Canadian here, but the last time I was laid off in 2011, I didn't apply for unemployment. I'd never had much trouble finding a job before so I didn't think I'd need it, but after a month of looking, I realized it wasn't going to be easy. I applied and was informed that because I applied after four weeks, I didn't…

Interesting. My former partner came from money and had school paid for. I did not and worked very hard to earn scholarships and put up with shitty jobs. He said that if we had kids he didn’t think we should pay for their school since he didn’t appreciate it and coasted through while I did my best and was more…

Because we’re seen. If someone has bruises or disappears, others might notice. If a weirdo is hanging around the windows, that might ring someone’s alarm bells. There’s little hope of that if the trade is pushed back in the shadows.

They are never going to listen to us. We’re just too weak and stupid to understand that we’re being exploited! As long as mainstream society buys into the bullshit that no women enjoy sex work or undertake it because it’s the best available option, or think that a drug habit or poverty negate consent and freedom of…

And closing down windows helps how? It seems far more likely to make prudes feel more comfortable than it is to help anyone exploited. Driving the industry further from the public eye always results in physical danger to sex workers and minimizes the chance of problems being reported.

Dear Lord! If it annoys you so Goddamn much, why not call ahead, ask if there's an automatic gratuity, and just go somewhere else if there is instead of fucking over servers who might even be losing money by serving you?

I'm so glad I work in an industry where it's acceptable to tell rude and cheap people to go away…

Don't forget to tip your sex workers, either, especially if they are working for an agency, spa, club, etc.!

I didn't have my first (and only) professional manicure until I was 26 and have been cutting my own hair for three years now. I do my own brows and dye my own hair. I'm not owed the services of estheticians. If I can't afford to tip appropriately, I don't go. Same as with a restaurant. These things are luxuries,…

We just got used to our lovemaking being accompanied by the sound of wailing kittens if we bone at my place. It was worse when I was a cam performer and my senior girl would cry and scratch at the door for hours when I was trying to look sexy and earn $. Once she even shook the door open and then jumped up in my…

I come from a broke-ass welfare -kid background (mommy studied fine arts!) and spent age 11 onward fantasizing about a nose job. I spent so much of every day fixated on my ugly nose, despite rarely facing criticism on that front. I even had a few modelling gigs as a gangly teen. After university it still seemed…