Fuck, yeah! She’s irritating but there’s no reason to be ashamed of your work. Whenever people find out I’ve had my nose done, they’re all, “But yours was for medical reasons, right? It’s different.” I just tell them, yeah, the part insurance paid for was medical, the other $7000 was pure vanity and I’d do it again…

My sister and I were both sort of surprises and both condom babies (which leads me to believe my parents are idiots who put them on their noses or something). My parents married because they wanted a family, but my mother was underweight (eating disorder) and had just gone off the pill and her doctor warned her it…

Yep. Not a fun time to be an indigenous sex worker. And most can't dye their hair and get a nose job and pass for white like I did.

Sex work doesn't necessity result in violence. Racism, misogyny, and stigma do.

Yep! My university offered aquafitness classes and that shit gave me sweet abs. Totally worth all the mocking my friends subjected me to.

Sex workers would all be laughing at you right now but it's too depressing that people like you who believe the bullshit anti-sex work orgs have been feeding them (often straight-up invented statistics) are the ones making legislation that puts our lives in danger. Sex work isn't particularly dangerous or…

My family and that of my "aunt" (mom's BFF) are both pretty trainwreck-y but very tight. Drugs, fist fights, incest, alcoholism, and yes, gun violence. Aunty and I just have to say "family-related gun violence" to send each other into giggle fits, because A) it's insane, and B) who else can relate? Don't worry,…

Yeah, this. I usually only have a single, tiny zit somewhere, but each of those leaves a mark that takes weeks/months to disappear. I generally put at least some foundation mixed with moisturizer blended with a damp sponge and then concealer if I'm going any further than the corner store I live above, just to have…

Granny sounds like a real winner, violently taking out her issues with her ex-husband on a stranger by doing something that could kill or disfigure her. At a wedding. HILARIOUS!

That's because women haven't been raised with the same sense of entitlement to men's bodies and time, as well as being taught that asking men out is forward and will make men think we're undate-able slutty slut sluts. If we respond "poorly", it tends to be by looking inwards when rejected, seeking reasons why we…

I once lived with a man for two years before discovering he didn't know how to iron. I was ironing some shirts for the week ahead when he asked me not to put away the board. I thought it was odd, since I'd never seen him iron, but he worked in a fairly casual environment. Soon after he called me over sheepishly to…

When pals of mine got married, the bachelorette involved having strangers sign a t-shirt, getting the bride wasted, seeing a drag show, going dancing, and hitting the strip club. The bachelor party, though, was a weekend-long contest. There was a quiet scotch tasting, fake mustaches (for the ladies and facial…

Oh, hell no, to seeing women. They have a rep for being super cheap and in my experience it's been depressingly accurate. They also have unrealistic expectations for encounters. I mostly stick to erotic massage these days and there isn't much demand from ladies.

A seriously high proportion of sex workers are…

Yeah. Grew up in a small, religious town. Never went past kissing in high school because I really wanted to be with girls, but I dated a lot hoping I'd meet "the right guy". That was enough to get me labeled a slut, despite only losing my virginity at 18 to a guy I'd be friends with for 8 years and dated for 4…

Obviously no one should get a tattoo if they don't want one, but if you pick a reputable place (experienced artists, health inspection and autoclave reports available, etc.) and actually follow the instructions (people over-moisturize like crazy, swim in gross pools, take off their bandages to show people who then…

I really can't speak to the science behind it, but it would seem like an odd "hoax." From the article it seems less like a traditional tattoo than an injection of a pool of ink. Perhaps it's like tattooing the inside of the mouth or the fingers where it needs to be touched/redone up on a regular basis? Do you have…

I know I'm just an internet stranger, but my city has at least one guy with his eyes tattooed. This is a real thing. No one ever requested it at the studio I worked at, and generally it was viewed thusly: people should do what they want with their bodies, but no artist worth their salt would be putting people's…

As a sex worker who spends her personal and professional life interacting with other SWs, I've never heard anyone imply that people who don't choose to do SW have issues. Not saying no one thinks that, just that it doesn't seem to be a widely held belief among the many dancers, cam girls, masseuses, and escorts I…

Oh, it happens in major cities, too. It's just less visible where Aboriginal peeps make up a smaller part of the population. I'm a halfbreed but pass no problem, and seeing the difference in how I'm treated and how my visibly-native relatives and friends are treated by the cops and society in general is disgusting…

Feminists can still be awkward and give misguided advice. And as a queer lady, feminist, AND a sex worker, I'm letting you know it was poor advice. I didn't read this as making her out to be bad person or a shitty friend. I'm sure as a feminist she'd be happy to get some advice from a dancer instead of simply…

Speaking as a sex worker, this happens all the time, but for profit. For some reason the idea of doing it for the pure satisfaction is a million times creepier. Pimps and scammers who come into town steal photos and place ads on Craigslist and similar sites. When the guy shows up, either he is too…