Sassy After Death
sassyskeleton
Aug 1
7

To be a (self-described?) incel and a deadbeat dad takes serious dedication to being terrible.

Aug 1
4

My guess is that it teaches confidence, perseverance and some psychological manipulation tactics. Confidence means that you actually approach the women, when before you didn’t. Perseverence means that eventually one of them will allow you to stay. Toss in some confirmation bias to forget all of the rejection. Read more

Aug 1
5

If a man is running any kind of workshop on relationships or spirituality..don’t go. Just don’t. It’s always dicey.

Aug 1
8

I have been married 25 years. It has its ups and downs, but when I read stuff like this I think how happy I am that I will never date again (even if I got divorced or become widowed-I’m done) and how happy I am that I met my spouse in a normal, organic way and that he is a normal person who lacks the capacity to play Read more

Aug 1
3

FWIW, Landmark “Education” is based on scientology brainwashing. And also scientology techniques for getting money from people. The founder left scientology and made a few changes to the format.

Jul 31
12

When I was around 11-12, my best friend got interested in NLP. He read tons of books about it (this was pre-internet) and thought it was basically magic. In college he became a PUA using The System or The Game or whatever. I looked him up on Facebook some years ago and he was an incel/MRA. He’s also a deadbeat dad who Read more

Jul 31
11

My dad was big into Napoleon Hill and Tony Robbins when I was a kid. I knew a couple of people who got scary into Robert Kiyosaki (Rich Dad Poor Dad) in college. Some of the guys around me in high school and college (90s/00s) got really into Ladder Theory and The System and other PUA books. Early in my career The Read more

Jul 31
32

The anecdote about the waitress really made me shake my head about how clueless Strauss and Jeffries are. They read the waitress getting red and flustered as hot and bothered, when I (woman and former waitress) read it as anger and frustration as in “Holy shit, how do I respond to this entirely inappropriate asshole Read more

Jul 31
6

Yes to the pyramid scheme. See my post in the grays about my psycho ex who runs an NLP pyramid scheme.

Jul 31
18

THANK YOU FOR REPORTING ON THIS.  I dated someone for two years who is a prominent NLP instructor / practitioner / life coach in the UK.  He date raped me on our first date - I was kicking and yelling ‘no.’  I guess he was ‘pushing past my resistance?’  He emotionally and psychologically abused me and manipulated me Read more

Jul 31
19

That (1) there is no research showing that NLP has the therapeutic effects it claims and (2) that it is fundamentally predicated on manipulation can both be true at the same time.  They are not mutually exclusive in any respect.

Jul 31
14

Have you asked your female friends what they think you could be doing differently? Internet dating is always a crapshoot, but women friends might be able to point out if you are in fact doing something offputting or could use improvement. (Note, friends, plural. You want a wide range of opinions so that you can sort Read more

Jul 31
34

The author seems unsure of what to do. On the one hand, they want to criticize nlp as a fringe theory that doesn’t work, but on the other hand, also criticize it as something sinister that “manipulates” adult women into making choices they didn’t want to make. Read more

Jul 31
8

If matches and initial dates are not the issue, then the most common problem is coming on too strong, or in some other way making people feel uneasy. Read more

Jul 31
7

So many of these types of creeps out there: Donna Eden, John Bergman, Eric Berg, and the creepiest of all, Joe Dispenza and his legally curated lies of fixing an allegedly broken back with his mind.  People believe this nonsense, and then get sicker and die.  Or get more mentally unhealthy as they feel desperate when Read more

Jul 31
21

A bizarre back and forth ensues during which the waitress turns “beet red”—the reader is meant to assume she’s feeling hot and bothered for him Read more

Jul 31
11

$600 an hour is absurd. It is hard to imagine how any such “coach” can justify that without knowingly being a scam artist. Even if the “advice” is great, afte 5 session, that’s $3000, which for most people, especially in their early 20s, is doing more harm than good.
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