Nah, this is my boyfriend. He was proud when I told him he is a feminist, but still reluctant to call himself one because "But how come not everyone thinks this way? I mean, I get that there are sexists, but we should just call them sexists, and the rest of us are normal."

So he calls feminists normal and non-feminists…

Mine weren't by any means feminist, but I have a few exes who were attracted to me because of my ambition and independent spirit, and then got very, very annoyed when I didn't eventually bend to their will or let them be in charge in the relationship.

I've dated a guy who screamed from the mountaintops that he was a feminist, the kind of dude who gets hard from debating and "playing devil's advocate" and I've dated a guy who said on our first date something to the effect of "yeah, but I don't want to be an asshole who bursts into a women's movement and tries to…

Did we stumble into a Thursday Next novel?

The Crimean War has started again, and there's a black market for cheese. I'm starting to get simultaneously scared and super duper excited. I might have to move my Thursday Next books from "fiction" to "non-fiction"

Russia manages to be comically ridiculous and horribly tragic at the same time, and I'm never quite sure how to react to shit like this.

I like this. I was really afraid, when I started reading this article, that is was going to be about how men carried around cakes and everyone looked at them and now they understand what it's like to walk around in public as a woman. And I'm so glad that that's not what it was.

totes agree. I feel the same way about people who make blanket statements much your spouse will annoy you 10, 15, 30 years in. That's not an absolute truth. If someone has a crappy marriage or a crappy marital sex life, tough noogies. Fix it if you want, or don't, but you can't blame it on myth.

comments like these are so depressing and often a little condescending. basically you seem to be saying "if you're happy and having good sex you're not in a real marriage." this makes "real marriage" sound like that machine from The Princess Bride.

But you can't just say, "it's fine if you're not in an abusive situation!" when these women most likely don't view it as an abusive situation because they haven't been given the tools to recognize the differences.
If pressure to have maintenance sex is commonly used as a tool in abusive situations, then that should…

I don't know. I'm 45 with the drive of a 20-year old, and my 44-year-old partner, she's insatiable.

Ohh! I used to work for Barnes and Hurrrgggh when I was trying to finish my Master's thesis, and we always had this fantasy that it was slightly better at Borders. I guess not! I worked there for three months or so. I actually liked working in the children's section and the literature section, where I was originally…

Trigger warning for sexual predators.

This is not a story about the best time I quit, but instead, the best time I was fired:

This is a long one, but here goes. I was in high school. It was a new charter school for the arts, and I was one of the biggest earners for donors, because I am a professional singer/songwriter/guitarist. Nearly every weekend and often during the week, they would send me out to sing for potential donors. I raised tens…

This isn't so much a "quitting" as it is a bridge burned. Consider it the best time I quit giving a fuck.

Ugh. A few days before Christmas, I ran into the Guy who wasn't yet divorced, not even separated, hell he hadn't told his wife yet.

Heh, I know guys like that. One friend of mine would inform women on the first date that he wanted to get engaged, have her move in with him, get married and have kids as soon as possible. Then he wondered why he never got second dates.

I will be buried in the greys, I love this movie but will concede that this piece is totally accurate and made me howl with laughter (cock-blocktapus...) BUT the Prime Minister speech to Billy Bob has to be taken into context of the time. This came out in 2003, when America had decided to invade Iraq because of 9/11…