Its a fear of male violence issue. Fix that and women will be straight with you. If she had walked out of that date, she’d have to make sure she had a safe way to get home and that he couldnt find her. Some bars have a service to help women leave bad dates but it isnt everywhere.

Emotional labour doesn’t mean you are owed sex. Women do that stuff for one another all the time, its what friendship is about for us. Also, women take longer to check out a potential male partner because of the physical danger risk from men and the fact that women generally need to feel safe to want sex. This means…