It’s funny, most women in my ‘hood don’t even try. They’ve literally “retired” at like age 30 when they had their first kid— years ago for most I know. Even some who get divorced and whose kids are older still don’t work. The few who really wanted to go back are unsure about how to handle childcare and home…

This was fun- my inlaws (Democrats) had dinner with their Republican friends who happen to be bazillionaires. Like I’m barely kidding— they’re worth like half a billion. The wife literally could not understand and definitely did not believe that there are any women who could not afford $1000 per year or whatever for…

They don’t care about that, or anything else. Their only answer to anything is “why should I have to pay for that?” Not understanding that public health affects all of us, including those who live in gated communities far away from the poors.

Also so many books, articles, etc., encourage women to just take their salary, deduct all childcare from it (even though the dad benefits from it, too), and then also deduct every possible cost remotely related to working (dry cleaning! convenience foods like bagged lettuce! Starbucks!). Then it’s like, see, you won’t…

We’ve had that happen, too. People look up real estate or rentals in Los Angeles and it doesn’t seem too bad. But then they get here and realize those affordable places are in pretty bad neighborhoods, and not exactly the scenic So Cal they imagined. The decent affordable stuff is an hour or more away in traffic and…

Exactly. It’s so easy to avoid tourist traps and chains in SD, but still they persist. But I can’t say it would never happen to me— i got dragged to a Subway next to the Eiffel Tower (two kids, late lunch, everyone hangry).

We’re in So Cal and we always say that if we didn’t have family here, we would likely move even though we love it. We are a dual income family, but we basically live in a shack so we can be near excellent schools. If we were younger and didn’t have the benefit of having bought a house before prices shot up, we would…

You’re 100% right. I live walking distance to Rosecrans Blvd, but toward the beach. We bought in 2001 and could never in a million years afford our own house now, even with our dual incomes. I work in the area and handle employee stuff— it’s getting harder and harder to attract and retain employees no matter how much…

It almost makes it worse to me, that it’s just normal to have women with their boobs hanging out. But yea I could see that happening— when you’re traveling, hungry and have to pee. Too bad though- so many good places nearby in downtown SD.

Good for you! You’re so young— you’re right, it can’t go on for 20 years like that. I didn’t start base color until i turned 40 (4 years ago), and I’m still getting away with 8 weeks. I’ll eventually go much lighter so it won’t be this harsh line between the brown (way too red brown because they can never seem to get…

It’s funny, I only hear about people doing this online. I know women at work who don’t color their hair, but they’re mostly into their 50s. Everyone I know (all 40-somethings) dye theirs, including me— currently every 8 weeks, but it will only get shorter. Such a pain in the ass. I’m willing to do it for now, but…

The idea that I would take my kids there makes me irrationally angry.

I didn’t know there were others either. Until my kids were watching “Undercover Boss” one day and it featured some shit hole chain called The Titled Kilt. So hooters type chicks in Irish type attire, still with their boobs hanging out/squished together. My kids just like Undercover Boss and really don’t seem to care…

I feel I achieved it when I had gas logs installed in our fireplace. Before you needed actual wood or a stinky chemical duralog, neither of which we were ever doing. Now I walk over to that shit, turn the knob, and bam, hygge. Only problem is I live in LA near the beach and it’s never cold or rainy enough (and no…

I have a choir nerd 13 year old son and he loves them. We’re a little baffled but otherwise supportive. I’m making him wait for “a capella camp” though. I’ve seen Pitch Perfect.

Word. My husband’s grandfather was one of those nope dudes. His buddies who were police officers told him, uh, you might want to GTFONOWWWWWW!!!! And so they did, on the next boat out, and not to the US (not until years later). So my husband and kids exist because of somebody who didn’t “give him a chance.” So fuck…

Or never watched/read the news in the first place. How many dumbshits do you know who are like, “I don’t watch the news, it’s so depressing!” And I don’t mean after the election, I mean just in general. I know so so many very rich people, particularly women/middle aged moms, who are like, I just want to see stuff…

Agreed. I gave this huge speech to my book club after we read one of the lighter weight recent WWII novels— how do you make sure you’re NOT that woman? How do you make sure you’re not the family lining the parade route watching people carted off to camps? How will you recognize evil when it comes again? Because it’s…

I’m an attorney and make a good salary- not crazy, but very good. My husband likes it a lot. Anytime I’ve talked about quitting, like after my second kid was born, he’s not super into it. And even the super conservative dude-bro-dads in the neighborhood (whose wives don’t work, naturally) seem a little jealous of my…

I think this really depends. I’ve had jobs where I adore my coworkers, and we’re still friends years later. Those were jobs right out of law school and for the first few years. I’m now in a great job where I tolerate the people in my department, but I have nearly zero in common with them and we would never hang out.…