Spin classes at Crunch were doing the push up in the 90s when I was a member. I actually think it does more than work your joint. It works your chest muscle a little. It’s just a little extra work to bump up the heart rate a bit more. It may be more important as boredom deflector. I always thought Spin classes were a…

Rage Yoga

I’m glad you got what you wanted!

I just assumed I could transition maiden to middle when I got married, because my mom did. Or so I thought. Turns out she just always used her maiden name as a middle name, but her legal name doesn’t include her maiden name. (Apparently this created some confusion at her second…

I wish the state I was married in allowed that. Only way to do it is change the last name on the marriage license, then afterwards go through the process of legally changing your name again to change the middle name. Way too much work for a name that I never use.

There’s a lecture/demonstration she did at a university on YouTube somewhere and she explains her first motivation for figuring this out was for bridal hairstyles. It took her some time to figure out sewing the braids. At first she was trying it with modern pins, and it just didn’t work.

I’m amazed only because this is just not a discussion I’ve ever had with a romantic or potential romantic partner. Literally never. Where are these people who ask this and if there are so many of them, how did I get so lucky to never encounter one in the nearly 20 years of adulthood I spent single before meeting my…

I’ve never been asked this question by a man. Well, maybe in high school, when it was more about finding out who amongst your peers was sexually active. I think I discussed this with some of my girlfriends in college, but I really can’t be certain. College years were spent in a small town not far from where I grew up,…

It could be that my particular weaknesses - a quick temper, a sharp tongue, and low threshold for frustration at BS - have been frequently triggered throughout my life. Some where in my teens I realized I had to be able to accept some push back without comment from people when I crossed a line or said something that…

Life has a funny way of correcting that for a lot of people. I’ve eaten my share of humble pie over the years, and that’s a lesson that mostly stays with you.

At some point of years of crappy first dates, being stood up, and too many false start relationships, I adopted the idea that if I ever found a lifelong partner, all the crappy experiences were meant to help me appreciate him when he finally showed up. He showed up four years ago.

I found out about a decade ago I had fibroids that were responsible for my less than awesome periods. My doctor’s advice was to keep an eye on them and that they probably wouldn’t affect fertility. It took ten years for me to get to were they became symptomatic enough to warrant surgery. Had I been a bit older, I…

It would annoy the shit out of me that some dude felt entitled to interrupt my workout as I was wearing my headphones, a clear sign of “don’t want to talk.” People can talk to one another at the gym, if it’s kept to a minimum and doesn’t interrupt a workout, but the only time to interrupt someone wearing headphones is…

Good luck with that as it is apparently half the people you know. If you display even half the judgmental, unkind, and unforgiving attitude to people you know as you do here, I have no doubt no one admits to you know about any mistakes they’ve ever made.

I agree that we teach children to not lie and steal, but we also - if we’re not abusive - don’t teach them they are bad people if they do. We teach them they did a bad thing. (And I don’t know about you, but I’ve yet to hear of a child being sent to time out for infidelity.)

well, I don’t think acknowledging the humanity of both adults and children is somehow holding adults to the standard of children. We do children a disservice if we tell them when they do something bad they aren’t bad people, but then switch the rules in adulthood.

So when children do bad things, they aren’t bad people, which is a trait of a child, but when an adult does something bad, they are a bad person, which is the trait of an adult? Jeez Louise. Just take a look at what you’re writing. You’re pretty much saying there should never be compassion or empathy or forgiveness…

Who suggested a cheater can’t recognize the difference between monogamy and cheating? Certainly not me. I’m just coming at this from a view that humans are fallible and fuck up some times. If you can’t accept that, then be single.

I’m with you on that. I know I’m coming at this from a very lucky place. My partner hasn’t cheated on me. But, I look at the stats, and I think, if 50% (or whatever it is) of marriages end up with at least one partner straying at some point - and realistically we’re talking about decades and decades - that tells me…

I think it’s a fair comparison. If children aren’t bad human beings because they’ve done a bad thing, neither are adults. This is part of the lack of ethics of demonizing people for fucking up. If someone is a complete shitheel and fucks up constantly in every aspect of their life and demonstrates an utter lack of…

Admit monogamy isn’t for them isn’t a true statement when the person has admitted being a serial cheater? Please. That also has nothing to do with the number of sexual partners, so I have no idea where you pulled that from.