Owning your shit is hard for most people. Just because some are better at it than others, or have gotten better at owning it quickly, doesn’t make it any less hard. Just because maturity and experience often leads to owning it quickly doesn’t make it any less hard. Do you see the difference?

You’re right, it’s not demonizing to say what is not acceptable to you. It is however, demonizing another human being to say that being unfaithful renders their entire character horrible. Do you see the difference?

My SO does more of the cooking than I do, so I tend to do more of the dishes. I’m queen of doing some of the dishes, and then saying “I’ll let the rest soak and get to them in the morning.” In my defense, we don’t have a dishwasher, and I work from home and usually do get to them in the morning (or early afternoon)

That is rough, and you and your mother have my sympathy.

I have no idea what you are talking about. My first post, in response to a post from someone admitting to being a serial cheater was this:

I think it’s really common in the immediate aftermath to not own your shit. (And not just in infidelity) I think that can take a while I also don’t think you have to own your shit for everybody. Your spouse? Yes. Your kids? Yes. Your friends? Back off and get your nose out of business it doesn’t belong in. Even for…

Well, I’d say you should give people time. People minimize shit all the time. Doesn’t mean they won’t own it eventually. Hell, I’ve treated family members poorly at times and minimized the hell out of it in the moment. Sometimes people have to grow, and that doesn’t happen in an instant. You have to let people be…

Oh, we’ve been over this already. Quite a few times actually. Paragraph 2 absolutely supports paragraph one. There’s absolutely no question about that. You can say it doesn’t, but that’s just bullocks. Maybe you just want to reread from here and see if you come up with the same responses. Try keeping score to see what…

Yay for tall partners! I’ll tell you, right at the golden hour in the evening, the sun hits our wood floors in a way that highlights every cat hair and speck of dust on it. (And every damn scratch). We use the vacuum on the floors and a microfiber duster, and if I’ve done it right before the golden hour I can see the…

Well, maybe you’ll have a kinder view when you find out some of your favorite people have cheated.

I absolutely agree that two paragraphs need not relate to one another (though in decent writing they do). However, yours do. Obviously. I don’t even know why you’ve spent so many hours arguing they don’t when the connection between the two is as hard to miss as the side of a barn.

I agreed paragraphs don’t necessarily have to be related to one another, and yet you asked where you wrote that the two paragraph supports the other? I’ll even concede that there are these things called chapters, a collection of paragraphs which can be entirely unrelated to another chapter. What’s that got to do with…

I started to get it somewhere along in my late 20s. When I started to know married couples that were dealing with infidelity, and actually knowing the couple and knowing that neither of the people involved were horrible human beings helped me see that it’s not as black and white as I used to think of it. Around the…

If you don’t think one must write that a paragraph supports another paragraph, or that two points that are related to one another relate to one another, why in the world are you asking this:

it’s so sad you think someone has to explicitly write that paragraphs support each other. Reading must be very confusing for you.

oh wait, don’t get me wrong. I am not doubting that people are racist here (England), although I seriously believe that we are less racist than the average american (but that is just a wild opinion).

context is the same, topic is the same. Try again.

The context of those two paragraphs that you are trying to argue your darnedest aren’t related, when they are, is consistent. Nor was there a explicit separation. Try again.

well, some infidelities can be characterized that way, and others wouldn’t be. I mean, if a brief lapse in judgment shows you the character of the person you married to be horrible, that really doesn’t say much for your judgment of the person’s character in all the time leading up to that, does it? I tend to view that…

oh, so now paragraphs need words to expressly link themselves to one another in order for you to understand the paragraphs are connected? So why don’t you highlight all the words that expressly link all those paragraphs you just wrote to one another.