As someone who went to one and also knows lots of people who have, I agree w others that it’s a prestige and networking thing. I also doubt it’s a coincidence that most of our parents are extremely bad at parenting. Shame is basically their only parenting tool.
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I went to Groton in the early 2000s and this sounds about right for them, too. So gross and shameful.
And then use the same conspiracy theory about Kurt’s own death (that Courtney hired a hit man to murder him bc he was going to leave her), which I’m sure has caused Frances Bean plenty of pain, to try and drag everything out. He totally just sounds like a gross abuser trying to hurt her
My first thought when I heard Melania hadn’t been seen for a while was that she is recovering from visible injuries related to domestic violence. Ivana’s testimony and Trump’s general behavior lead me to believe he’s an abuser. I’ve looked and found nothing from anyone guessing that this might be the case, but I…
As a former survivor advocate who also accompanied survivors through the “community accountability,” “restorative justice,” and “transformative justice” wringer in my small self-styled “radical” community, this is a most distastefully familiar dynamic. I no longer have any respect for people who advocate for any of…
I saw a report from the Southern Poverty Law Center on “the tech industry’s hate group problem” and it got me thinking about how the rise of this new wave of white supremacy might really be traceable to white male dominance in STEM/ tech. Like these echo chambers that enable movement building and don’t get shut down,…
How is this right-wing conservative definition of “feminism” different from the “feminism” of evangelical women in Margaret Atwood’s Gilead (Handmaid’s Tale)? Why are we (actual feminists, if “feminism” means “social justice”) putting up with this appropriation of the term? Building an inclusive movement is one thing.…
56-year-old men don’t “have sex with” 15-year-old kids. Consent matters, as does language. Statutory rape is rape.
Yes, I’m not endorsing all of her thinking, simply that specific quote. I’m not sure what you mean by “highly specious.” Clearly, endorsers of “not all men” such as yourself will disagree with it. Just because you disagree with an idea does not make it misleading. The threat of violence may reasonably be expected to…
but this brings to mind the Susan Brownmiller quote where she says something to the effect of “not all men rape, but all men benefit from the state of fear instilled in women by rape.”
Well, and when I was an advocate for survivors of abuse, I learned that part of sex offender treatment is to write a letter of apology to their victim taking ownership of the impact of their choices. And their treatment provider reads it to screen for things like promises never to do it again, excuses, shifting…
I think it’s important to understand that classifying something as abusive or exploitative is not inherently classifying it as trauma. Trauma is an experience of being overwhelmed and out of control. When it occurs during developmental stages, it becomes much more complex and can have major ripple effects on…
Redefining an experience as trauma makes sense if you experienced all the things that come along with trauma. It is the first step towards being able to heal and address the issue and build resilience, rather than living in denial/ fear/ pain.
Thanks! It’s so emotionally exhausting going over and over the same things with people who have an active bias against believing survivors. It’s like they believe they’re being “objective” by being skeptical of the word of women and children. Buddy, I’m skeptical of the word of powerful men.
No kid deserves to be called names. It’s disrespectful. I (a mother to a young child) read this as a good father expecting and showing respect for his child. Yes, I am sometimes annoyed by my child. At the same time, I understand that usually when my child is crying or whining it’s because she is uncomfortable or…
This piece reminded me of something I realized back when I used to do advocacy for survivors of sexual and domestic violence. I realized that victim-blaming (which is what this is— the idea that harassment is caused by some deficit of its targets, rather than choice of its actors) was a response to a feeling of…
Ugh, this reads like the most mansplainy obnoxious post ever, please stop
Maybe she hated him because he was emotionally manipulating and sexually abusing her.